I'm 18 a senior in h.s. and I'm pregnant, about 5 months along and I'm showing considerably. Its not that big of a deal around my friends, family and boyfriend. However when I go out people stare at me, or they make rude comments (like s**t etc or tell me how i've ruined my life) ive even had religious organizations come up to me and tell me that im going to hell etc. People have also been rude to my mom, telling her she didn't raise me right. When i go out with my boyfriend (with and without his daughter) people are rude to me and to him, calling him a cradlerobber, pervert etc (hes 23) and people have even told him that he needs to get a vasectomy and stop popping out children that will only burden society. I don't get it, I live in a conservative southern town. However, i'm financially independent from my parents, i live on my own and my boyfriend and i and our families are all excited about this baby. What can i do and why do they make these comments?
2006-08-15 17:56:47 · 16 answers · asked by barbieisagoddess 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
First of all, you need to ignore them. What you are doing is what you were put here to do, have kids. Second of all, tell them to screw off. You're an adult, capable of making your own decisions. I went through the same thing with my first child, just don't let it get to you. Concentrate on that baby and your family, and you'll make it through just fine. I promise.
2006-08-15 18:02:02 · answer #1 · answered by Roxxy Wylde 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop those stupid people. You are happy to be having this baby. You're of legal age and your boyfriend is certainly not a cradle robber. You can't do anything about them except thank goodness you are not them. Those religious organizations are just that "religious". They are not of God. God doesn't judge like that. He wants everyone to come into His family by believing in the Lord. Just enjoy the excitement of this wonderful event with your families and don't let them take it away. No matter how many children you have you will not have things the same. So enjoy!
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2006-08-15 18:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Im Donna. Im 22. I have a 4 year old and Im about 7 months pregnant. I was pregnant with my daughter at 17 so I feel ya completely. I dont want to sound like a b**ch but give them those looks and stares right back. Mean mug 'em because its your child, your life, your body. Your life isnt ruined. I dropped outof school at 16 before I was pregnant. I had my baby, got my GED and went on to college. Two colleges. Because you are young and soon to be a mother you have so many options and roads to take. And its much easier to get help paying for college.
2006-08-15 18:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by donnagirl8112 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are not going to hell because you are a teenage mother. I do suggest that you find God. If you and your boyfriend have chosen to have a baby and live together, I think you should marry each other. It will keep people from talking as much and the baby will have a normal family unit. Don't let people talking about you ruin what should be a wonderful time in your life. I hope you have the opportunity to finish high school and possibly go to college if you wish to. As long as your family, you, your boyfriend, and his family are happy, then be happy. I do think you should get married. I'm old-fashioned like that. Please take your baby to church though. Knowing God is a great joy and peace. I wish y'all all the happiness!
2006-08-15 18:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just remember that a lot of these people are doing what you did to make the baby they just didn't get pregnant. Tell them to mind their own business and when someone religous person starts in on you tell them " Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." When someone wants to let you know how you ruined your life let them know that if they will leave their name and number you will be sure and call them just as soon as you give a damn what they think.
2006-08-15 18:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize that most people want a child coming into the world to be in the best possible situation - a loving family with a husband and wife. I guess their comments show their disappointment in others' selfishness.
2006-08-16 03:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing there are ignorant people everywhere. Just live your life the best that you can and be a good mom and they will get over it eventually. I am sorry you have to go through this. I cant believe how mean people can be sometimes. GOOD LUCK.
2006-08-15 18:03:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has got their preconceptions and prejudices
a lot feel that a teenager who's pregnant has been 'playing' around and get into premarital sex...and not mature enough to know about what they are getting into
but it's important to be comfortable with yourself; close friends and family that is supportive is very helpful; and you can forget about the looks and comments strangers give you...they don't know your situation and don't understand it, so its unfair to make unkind statements
2006-08-15 18:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by KingRichard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you live in a sh*thouse place! sorry but true!
get thicker skin, ignore the a*seholes and have your baby and love it and care for it the way you wanted to be loved and cared for.....remember hun, there will always be w*nkers in the world but you can rest in the fact they always will be w*nkers when your a happy mother......good luck
2006-08-15 18:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by Aussieblonde -bundy'd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay.put cotton in urs n ur bfs ears wen going out
2006-08-19 17:50:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋