HELP! -- I don't know how...?

Question

How does a bi-curious girl...(late 20s) go about finding someone ("feminine" is sexy to me) to experiment with?

Well, ok, I admit it's more than "curiosity." I'm extremely attracted to other girls, and reallllly want to explore this, but:

a) I'm way too feminine for any girl to hit on me,
b) I'm super-shy when it comes to girls, and
c) I feel too old to be trying something like this for the first time!

Also, it seems like everyone around my age wants someone "experienced" and all that... What to do?

Answer 1

Have you heard of http://www.adultfriendfinder.com/ ??

Answer 2

Try hitting the gay/lez bars if you're into that, oh and bring a friend with you who knows your deal (ie, bi-curious). If you're too shy, let your friend do all the talking for you to pick up women... but u can always muster up the courage to do it yourself. If everybody does it, then why not you? Come on grrl, u can do this... Heheh. I'm sure, you're bound to go home with a woman of your choice (ie feminine). Or not really go home, but get to know first then go home with... heheh. ;o)

If u have women friends or even co-workers, then ask them a hypothetical question... ie, ask them something like "if you find women attractive, would u have sex with them just to try it out?" And then check their answers, if one of 'em says sure or yes, then u got one. Heheh. ;o)

Or you could always check the internet. Go to websites that interest you (of course lez ones) and chat with them through message boards, IM, etc. Or even Yahoo Answers for that matter. There r also lots of lesbian dating sites online. U can do those too. I've tried the online thing and I've met a few people personally already that I've met online... one of 'em even became my bestfriend so who knows eh? So, I guess you should try everything then just to be sure.

I don't think you're too old to try something new. Even if you say you're in your late 20's, you still have a lifetime to explore. Hey, if that's what u feel u like then go for it. There's no stopping you. It's up to you to know what you want. However, it all depends too on who you will be attracted to... you might say you're attracted to femmes, but then when u meet someone and then you click, it doesn't matter if they're femme or not, it's just coz you like the person. But then good luck and hope you'll find your Miss Right! ;o)

Answer 3

Try going out to some clubs ( gay and lesbian ), have some fun , dance a little, have a couple of drinks if that's what your into. Don't go out looking for a partner to experiment with, just go out to have some fun. Believe me honey the ladies will find you.

And don't worry about being shy, I know allot of ladies that think that its cute.

Answer 4

I was asked to pose for Playboy Magazine. I'm painfully shy when it comes to meeting women. People who know me have a hard time believing that I have a hard time meeting women. You are never to old to try some thing. Do not let your life pass you by. I'm still shy.......experience...just might be talk? Do not let it be an experiment. Let it be an experience....

Answer 5

I had this same problem. I thought i was bi-curious, but then wondered why I never wanted to 'get' with any guys. Turns out I was a lesbian. You are probaly bi-sexual. And just like me, you are a fem that likes fems. Believe me, it won't be long before you find a bi fem that likes you because a lot of them do.

Answer 6

Try going to lesbian bars. Don't try to meet someone to "experiment" with, just look for friends. The best way to meet someone who you can really feel comfortable with is to feel comfortable with the situation. Also, you might try some known "gay" hangouts like coffee shops or restaurants in the "gay" part of town. I know that there's a lot of places like that here, but I don't know where you are.

Answer 7

if you find one let me know! ;)
I am having the same issue myself and I Don't know how well I trust the internet. Honestly you probably want someone on the same page as you. I think thats what I want is someone not to agressive that would make me feel relaxed. Your not too old, your not old at all. there no age limit on finding yourself

Answer 8

Wow that sounds hott. Just do it. Ps. You are not old and dress sexy so that all the girls notice you.

Answer 9

If u want to blow your self then u don't want to be shy because then u will never get good experience.

Answer 10

Have you tried putting a profile on planetout.com?

Answer 11

Don't look for girls that BREATH lesbian. Go for the shy type, and she'll surprise you.