is there anyone who has been married for a year or more to someone who they did not love at the beggining but then grew to love them during the marriage?
is the person you are married to the one you wanted? or did you settle for this person cause the person you wanted to marry was not available or not interested in you?
how did you know this is the person for you or do you ever know this is the person for you even after you say i do?
is it true that if you have to ask if this is the person then this is really not the person?
is it true that if this is the person for you for life then there are no questions about it?
how do you know you love this person for marriage reasons?
2006-08-15 17:24:04 · 6 answers · asked by beachgirl90 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You ask a lot of questions about marriage. You sound confused or frightened.
29 years ago I was 18, and my wife was 17. We felt we loved each other deeply. But now 29 years later our love is a thousand fold deeper. I don't have to ask my wife to confirm this, she would probably use a bigger number. Living with another person for any length of time will develop love, respect, and compassion for them that wasn't there in the beginning.
My wife was absolutely the one for me. We dated for 2 years, and after a while couldn't stand the thought of seperating, even just for the night. Even today the thing that upsets me the most is having to be seperated from her for a prolonged period of time.
Time will tell you if this is the right person for you. Don't jump into a relationship prematurely. Wait and see what feelings develop for your significant other. If you're wanting to be with that person after a month or so, that's just newfound infatuation. If you still want to be with that person next year, and it royally pisses you off when you can't be, now you've got something. Don't play those question games, of course you need to be vigilant regarding how your relationship develops. Anybody, if they look hard enough might find some minor quirk that will give them a moment if pause. But the focus needs to be how much do you care for him. If there are quirks, do they really matter? you probably have a few too. Don't let these trivial things mess with your head and ruin a great thinhg.
2006-08-15 18:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting questions that you have asked.
I've been married six years so far. I was forced into the marriage by my father, when i was 17 years old. I was a party girl and my father couldnt handle me at all.
Sure he is the person, because he understands me, and our lifestyle is basically the same as our younger ages.
Was young when I got married, didnt really realize it was a big step in life, I dont regret it at all. I have a wonderful five year old daughter.
If i would of known how he was in the begining i wouldnt have gotten married, the lies, and the cheats. I do adore my daughter the most.
Husband and I understand our reasons why we are married, we are commpatible, he knows what i am thinking, i like it very much. I dont regret it. You learn from the mistakes that you have made in life.
2006-08-15 17:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have doubts then that is normal because everything is going to change you don't get the whole closet or bed to yourself you have to share your bathroom with a guy.
My 7th anniversary is going to be Aug.30th and I loved my husband when we got married but was terrified of combining our lives I like everything done a certain way and he likes stuff done another way and marriage is a whole lot of compromise.
And it is nice to wake up with someone you love. I think marriage is worth it.
How do you know you love this person for marriage reasons.. Have you seen Diary of a Mad Black Woman?????? Well this guy ask this girl to marry him and she asks basically the same question to him and his reply was that he prays for her more than for himself and other reasons if you haven't seen it go rent it shoot buy the movie it is really good.
I think sometimes you know right away I did not even know my husband when I seen him in our church choir and I told my sister that was going to be my husband and here we are 7 years later.
2006-08-15 18:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ to ...... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get married unless you are absolutly in love with them,marriage is tuff and if you start it off not sure then you wont make it.break it off now cause marrige is cheap(it could be) but divorcing could cost alot of money not to mention stress besides you dont want to care about them the person you marry you should be maadly in love with.
2006-08-15 17:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by happy-go-lucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are thinking of getting married and are asking all of these questions, this guy is NOT for you. Don't do it! You will know when the right one comes along....
2006-08-15 17:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubt what so ever, " don't get married"
2006-08-15 17:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋