I currently have a secret crush for one of my male best friends...and he doesn't know. He only knows I'm gay. I'm scared to go on a roadtrip with him and other friends for obvious reasons. Should I just not go? I'd rather not ruin our friendship.
2006-08-15 17:04:13 · 8 answers · asked by Someone u dont know 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And I mean should I not go because there will be extreme tension and like uncomfortableness for me because I'll probaly be sleeping in the same room and stuff like that. I wouldn't try sex with him or anything...he isn't gay.
2006-08-15 17:20:20 · update #1
Growing up gay, I know exactly what you are going through... Some of my greatest experiences have been on road trips, and camping trips... so please don't miss out on the good time, just because you are gay... Obviously you know how to keep your hands to yourself, or you wouldn't be writing to us... Here's the thing, your friends think enough of you to invite you, so don't disappoint them. Who knows, it may strengthen your relationship. If your worried about showering together, look but don't touch. If he wants you to touch, you'll know, he will instigate such an act. If you are sleeping together, you may end up cuddling (innocently) and you may not have that opportunity otherwise... I know that sounds like torture, but isn't worth the chance? If you are concerned about certain body parts standing at attention, wear loose clothing or maybe a long shirt, that will help disguise it... Besides 99% of young men wake up hard.... so you will blend in. Part of getting straight people to accept gay people in the mainstream is by co-existing, and you might make the difference when one of the guys that are going with you, has to vote on whether gays get to marry each other. So thanks for doing your part and go have a good time.....
2006-08-15 18:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by taterliquor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically if he isn't gay and you realize that you shouldn't try anything which it seems you do I'd say your good. Focus on the trip and strengthening friendships nothing else. If your getting some vibes or whatever don't address your issues in front of a group wait til' you two are alone. What you really need to think about is...are you certain of your feelings?
Do you want to risk your friendship?
just relax and let things flow with the trip. think about the rest of those feelings and emotions later.
2006-08-15 17:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no man, you have to go on the road trip. Trust me on this one. If you ever want to know someone; the best time is on a road trip. You learn so much about each other. You're in a car with no excuse but to talk and find all you need to know. Don't back out or you'll regret it. Certainly don't make a move; its your turn to see how he feels about you.
2006-08-15 20:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your friends know, I say go and enjoy yourself. Who wants to take your closet on the road?
This kind of gets to the misconception (and we do have misconceptions about ourselves) that gay men can't keep their hands to themselves. That's just not true. Straight men are far more likely to misbehave around women than we are around other men.
About your crush, there are a lot of really great gay men out there. Straight men make lousy gay lovers.
2006-08-15 22:01:08 · answer #4 · answered by San Diego Art Nut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's your friend and will understand. Just don;t tell him in front of a group of people. Pull him aside and tell him how you feel.You two can work something out where you both will feel comfortable and have fun on the trip
2006-08-15 17:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go--you don't have to bring sex into the trip
2006-08-15 17:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he gay too? if he isnt u shouldnt try anything.
2006-08-15 17:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
iam not gay so i dont know
2006-08-15 17:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by salsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋