how do u let the man u love know that money isn't everything?

Question

my husband and I have an anniversary coming up the 28th of this
month and every year he always gives me money and tells me to
get whatever I want, but what I really want is for him to put his heart into it and get me something on his own, I mean it doesn't even have to be expensive just as long as I know that he put his heart into it. I wouldn't care if it was a card or just a simple rose, as
long as I didn't have to tell him and he did it all by himself. please serious answers only.

Answer 1

Christina, guys are pretty simple really. Just tell him you want something that he spent some time thinking about as it relates to you! All he needs is a little direction! Tell him this time, you don't care whether it's an expensive gift or not, but something special you'll treasure for the rest of your life because it truly means he knows you. Don't worry, he won't be hurt or anything, he just needs the direction!

Answer 2

I know this is going to sound strange but there's a possibility your husband doesn't really know what to get you. He gives you money instead so that he can be sure you'll get something you really want for yourself. Some men are just not so good with this. My ex bf was the same way. My suggestion would be to speak with him about this and tell him exactly what you just told us here. Tell him that you would love for him to take the initiative and get you something he feels like getting you, not because you want it but because he really wants to give it to you.

Answer 3

It may not be that he's being thoughtless at all. He may have been burned in the past (way too embarassed to mention it) by a gift rejection from another woman (or even a relative). I think he thinks he's making you happy. Men think and speak so differently from women. Try to think of it (maybe?) as his way of doing what he thinks is the nicest thing he can do for you.

Answer 4

tell him that this year for your anivesury that all you want is for him to cook you dinner yes i said cook and him in the same sentence even if it is take out or drive threw that way he knows exactly what you want and then if he surprise you with money go out and buy some naughty toys for the two of you to share don't spend the money on just you get something you both can have fun with

Answer 5

Gift = Money. Are you that dense. You should be happy he remembers your anniversary and that he gives you money. You are ungrateful and selfish. What the hell is wrong with you?
I hope he dicorces you and find someone that actually deserves him becuase you sure as hell don't.

Answer 6

What does it matter. Money = gift. If he was cheap, then you would have something else to whine about. Be grateful that your husband knows when your anniversary is and that he cares enough about his family to work to earn money and give it to you.

Answer 7

simply say ahead of time in a conversation of cuddling or something that this year you would like to do things different and tell that you would to have something or see something from his heart something he put thought into

Answer 8

if you want him to know money isnt important start saving some of his and stop spending so dang much of it lmao

Answer 9

Have you told him this...Maybe he thinks that you want to pick out your own gift...Tell him

Answer 10

by going dutch on most of your outings or offering precious gifts to him