I've never had a girlfriend before and am still virgin, I'm not so good when it comes to relationships and many people told me that my low self esteem and lack of self confidence is my only problem, My good friend who's ironically an expert with girls and relationships adviced me to have sex with any girl as a recipe to overcome my problem, What do you think, should I listen to him?
2006-08-15 17:03:27 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
yes
2006-08-15 17:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by kurleylovescheese 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might make you feel more confident about your sexual performance, but as far as self esteem goes, you need to have that before a woman will give you the time of day. Women don't want a man who doesn't know who he is or doesn't have self confidence. I woman wants a man to be her rock, and in order for that to happen, the man already has to be sure of himself. My advice to you is to take some self help courses and try to get out there and meet women, and don't be afraid of rejection, after all, it's a part of life and everyone expereinces it from time to time. Good luck.
2006-08-15 17:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex - also termed as 'Copulation' is a biological need of every animal, including we human beings. So any basic need of the body if repressed forcibly (for whatever reasons) or deliberately is against the law of the nature. And anything that is against the law of nature does take its toll on your health.
So unnatural suppression of SEX manifests into various frustrations that could lead to disturbed mental state. But there is no evidence that SEX can influence one's SELF CONFIDENCE. Because SELF CONFIDENCE is something which we start developing right from our childhood FIRST STEP WE TAKE TO WALK as a toddler. (we dont even think about SEX then! Right?).
So please dont heed to your friends advice. There are various reasons for low self esteem and lack of self confidence. Maybe we can touch that issue in one of your next questions regarding same. Hope your current question about your friends advice has been addressed.
2006-08-15 17:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Guru4urQUERIES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Sex is not the answer to your self esteem problems, relationships are. You can get away with a good "opposite sex" relationship without the physical intimacy. Having sex could add more problems if there is no relationship there. Go find some "opposite sex" relationships. A co-worker is always a good start.
2006-08-15 17:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by JustLynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel... or at least i used to. when i was a virgin i had pretty low self-confidence... but after i started having sex i felt more wanted and special. so yes having sex would help a little bit... but in a way it's bad too because i began to rely on sex as my confidence booster and when i stopped having sex i didn't feel too good about myself. so it goes either way. but then again i had a dysfunctional relationship so every situation is different. just find a girl you really care about to lose your virginity to. bottom line is, don't rely on anybody else to bring you confidence. sorry if all that was really confusing haha
2006-08-15 17:12:02 · answer #5 · answered by babycakes2444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self esteem will only improve if you want it to. Having sex will not likely do it for you, especially since you probably won't get it right the first time (nobody does). Besides, meaningless sex is just that. Meaningless. If your friend is giving you that kind of advice, maybe you should reconsider your choice of friends. Most guys who claim to be experts with the ladies, aren't.
2006-08-15 17:12:41 · answer #6 · answered by eyeque195 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an awful reason to lose your virginity, I can tell you that right now.
Sex won' t make you confident. The fist time you do it, it's nothing at all like the movies, there's lots of "are you sure?" "Where is it?" "wow" and "what the hell is that?" going on.
The best way to be self-confident is to remember that at the end of the day, what anybody else thinks of you doesn't matter. You'll grow old and die and most of those people will never see you again or think about you again after high school. What matters is you. Do what you want, and say **** the rest of 'em.
2006-08-15 17:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Brian L 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to him.. although sex might temporarily make you feel like a hot shot, no physical contact can make your confidence be boosted... heres the relation... confident guys = more girls who want to sleep with them.. it doesnt work the other way around. Work on why your self conscious first... I doubt its because your a virgin.
2006-08-15 17:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not an expert that much is certain. Do what you feel is right. If you do what you feel is right that will improve your self-confidence. Following the thoughts of another will only mean you are confident in them - and not in yourself.
2006-08-15 17:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes makes you feel successfully and complete
definitely recommend it for the spirit
especially if it is with some one that you love and will continue seeing
if it is only to prove some thing ,you maybe disappointed,and could even make you feel stupid.
or even worse inadequate
so be careful if you only want to use it as a remedy and with some one you care less about.
be healthy ,be smart ,and take care of how you look .
that brings on confidence ,and learn to talk to a lot of people
2006-08-15 17:13:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think? If you are asking this question - doesn't that mean you have no self confidence - because you care so much as to what other people think? I understand the need to collect data but the truth is you yourself already know.
2006-08-15 17:09:07 · answer #11 · answered by whatsntomake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋