What is up with this girl!??

Question

K.. I just asked a similar question but I think i didnt word it properly.
This girl I've known for a few years has stabbed me in the back numerous times. It seems as if she can't form her own opinions on people.. ie, if one of her "other, cooler" friends say "I don't like that girl" then she'll say the same exact thing. Then if they change their minds, so does she. Right now she likes me because everyone @ work likes me, probably because i'm not a fake, insecure person like she is. I have no idea why she chose to work with me, since we haven't spoken for months beforehand, but now she is making work totally unenjoyable for me. I know I'm not jealous of her, but it just frustrates me because i know how she really is deep down. I know that she's like a virus.. she seriously spreads thru everyone and becomes part of everyones lives. she can't be rejected, she always has to be the center of attention, she has to be everything!! and i'm the only one who knows this cause i've known her for..

years!! i've warned some of my friends about her but i have a hard time explaining what it is about her that I just don't like.. I don't even think I know. but thruout the years she's made me feel lower than dirt, useless, etc., i think she knew i was easy to hurt and vulnerable. & now i think ppl at work think i'm lying about her so now i just dont' say anything.. i guess this is just typical girl behviour.
i just can't put my finger on what it is that really bothers me about her. I know she's insecure but i know theres more to it than that
this probably isn't making sense!!

Answer 1

OK that's a mouth full!
Here's what you do 1st off you can't warn people about her with it seeming like your hating on her! I say that because no matter what words you use it'll never get threw to people they have to see it there own!
Honestly baby girl you just need leave that child alone! Some people thrive off making people feel bad,starting rumors and all kinds of other negative things that just end up draining your energy!
You don't have to tolerate a person you don't like now I'm not saying be nasty to her but you don't have to go out of your way to be nice either!
Don't talk to her besides to say Hi.
Believe me you'll be better off!

Answer 2

I really know how you feel. I had the same problem my choices were either being bossed around by her and being her friend or just not being her friend and do the whole thing by my self and that she has to do it by her self. I took the wrong decision and went with being her friend but i found out i just wanted to be popular like her so the grade i earned was with her too. So i would say maybe you can't think of it right now but maybe when you are really thinking what it might be then it would come to you. That is what happened to me. I'd say your choices would be to continue keeping your mouth shut and being her friend or telling her privately *or public doesn't really matter* that you were a pain in the neck. Or at least some hing like that. I give you alto of Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

I have a friend exactly like that. The best thing you can do is to take her off her pedestal, at least in your eyes. Don't buy into her crap. She is obviously not worth all those years, so pull away. When she starts pulling her strings on you, just tell her to get a life. If she sees that you don't care about the dumb stuff she's doing and that you see through it and don't like it, if she realizes that there's someone she can't control, she'll either shape up or back down. Either way, you're free of her. And you just might get the real friend you deserve.

Answer 4

I have known many people like your "friend". Know that she will never be what most people really call friend. I think the thing that really bugs you about her is that because she basically goes whatever direction everyone else does, she can't be trusted. You can't know how a person like that will act from day to day because you never know who they might talk to and what they might say. Anyone can influence her and that makes her unstable. Go with your gut. Stay away. Just remember to keep an eye on her. Like it says in the art of war, "keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer". Think of her as an enemy who thinks she's your friend and you'll be okay.

Answer 5

You're right, it's confusing, but I think the gist of it is, this girl rubs you the wrong way because you think she steals the spotlight and fools people by saying anything to please who she's dealing with at the time. Earlier you said she tells people you got her the job. She may be saying that to try to ingratiate herself to you! If not, it doesn't really matter. You should stop talking about her at all to anyone, and let her play herself out. Generally, if you give people like that enough rope they'll hang themselves. In other words, people will catch on to her and she'll move to another group of people. Another option would be to befriend her, and slowly show her how real people act by demonstrating to her and showing her how you handle things and your method of conduct.

Answer 6

There is a tendency for some to hog the limelight. They will do silly things to attract the attention. If you have sensed the frivolity in her character and if you feel that she is despicable to you, then keep off. Somehow you tend to veer around her and pay more attention. You too have to have a check on you.

Answer 7

She's two-faced. Don't be rude, but don't be friendly. Just act professional at work and get your job done. Also, separate yourself from this game everyone is playing. Be yourself. Find your own friends and find stuff to do that you like to do and don't let anyone get under your skin. It's a waste of energy.


Good luck! :O)

Answer 8

i knew a girl like that once and the best thing you can do is break all contact with her and never speak to her or be around her if at all possible even at work. maybe you should get another job or just ignore her when you're there and eventually maybe she'll leave you alone.

Answer 9

i am a great believer in instinct and if your gut tells you that strongly that this is not someone you should be around, then do what you can to get out of it. if you can't get out of it, be cautious. as long as you know you can't trust her, she can't really get to you.

i've had that feeling once before about a person, and months and months after i met him and had that feeling, i discovered in a casual conversation that there was good reason. trust your gut. instinct is a survival tool. people who disregard it and rationalize everything are throwing away a valuable instrument. hold on to yours and use it wisely.

good luck.

Answer 10

She is like that BECAUSE she wants so bad to be liked...you shouldn't allow any one to make you feel lower like she does...ignore her and best thing is to never warn anyone about another person, just cause you don't like her doesn't mean other people don't so relax...or go find another job. when it possible, leave the room when she is there or act like she isn't around...don't suffer over her....be happy babe