MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME . I THOUGHT I COULD JUST GET OVER IT BUT I CAN`T GET PASSED IT. WE R STILL TOGETHER AND I COULDN`T ASK FOR A BETTER HUSBAND NOW. BUT HE DID SOMTHING WHILE HAVING THIS AFFAIR THAT I CAN`T GET OVER.(NO BABY) HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
2006-08-15 16:56:00 · 6 answers · asked by LINDA C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a hard question, and few people in this world know the answer for you.
Adultery is about moral weakness and betrayal, period, whether it is a woman who complains she is not getting the TLC she needs, or the man who just wants some extra action.
There is supposed to be a moral and emotional bond in marriage between man and wife. And, his actions have broken that bond. It is like Humpty-Dumpty, it is hard to put it back together again.
You would not be human if you did not think, "So, when is morally weak imbecile going to betray me again?" Right?
The usual answer if for you to get counseling. I don't know. Bless you!
I am not a saint. I have been married and have been faithful for 31 years. Have I been tempted? Sure. I am almost always in love with another woman. (Seriously.) This is simple. No matter what emotions you feel for another woman, you never say a word to her; if you fall in love with another woman, she is never to suspect a thing. You can't help falling in love, but you sure can help what you say and do, if you are not morally weak.
Note this is for me, not for my wife. It is what I think of me, what I stand for, who I am.
That's why I know adultery is moral weakness.
2006-08-15 17:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't associate sex with emotions like women do. If a guys not getting it at home, mother nature will drive him to look elsewhere. But when it's over, he's the same calm person again.
Cheating is a point of view. A guy might think that instead of bothering or arguing with a wife over sex, to get it on the side and that's one less argument.
I'm not saying rather it's right or wrong, just different interpretations to different people. In some countries, it's fully accepted, so who's to say that it's out right wrong.
2006-08-15 18:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHY do women think it`s ok to cheat on their husbands ?
MY wife CHEATED ON ME . I THOUGHT I COULD JUST GET OVER IT BUT I CAN`T GET PASSED IT. WE R STILL TOGETHER AND I COULDN`T ASK FOR A BETTER wife NOW. BUT she DID SOMETHING WHILE HAVING THIS AFFAIR THAT I CAN`T GET OVER.(NO BABY) HOW DO I DEAL WITH THIS?
2006-08-15 17:52:47 · answer #3 · answered by turbietech 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't have a monopoly on cheating. It does go both ways. What made you stay in the relationship after you discovered that he had cheated on you? That's the real question that you have to deal with. Also, you need to be honest with yourself. Are you willing to stay with this guy given the fact that he cheated? Are you willing to put it behind you and move on? If yes, then stay with him and go beyond this issue. However, if you know that you can't forgive him...move on. It is not fair to him for you to stay in the relationship. He needs an opportunity to move on and so do YOU.
2006-08-15 17:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by MrG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men think it's macho to cheat. If you forgive and forget you can count on the fact that he will do it again. If what he did wrong was telling the other girl that he loved her that's no big deal to a guy...that's like the password to getting inside her panties.
2006-08-15 17:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Laura 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men know it isn't okay, so you shouldn't generalize. And it sounds like he has figured out that he hurt you and won't do it again. Try to put it behind you - you can't change the past, but you can release the hold the past has on you so you can move on to the future without all that negativity.
2006-08-15 17:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋