post partum depression?

Question

can a new mom get post partum depression 3 months after the baby is born? i am starting to feel crappy. i am on 50mg of zoloft a day and half the time i can't remember to take it. my month's prescription has lasted me over a month and i still have plenty left... i love my kids but i want them to leave me alone. i don't want to hold my baby i just want to hide from her because it seems like no matter what she is crying. if she isn't crying my almost 4 year old is getting into something he knows not to. i can't take it anymore. i am always depressed wether or not i take my zoloft, it's just a little more bearable if i take it. really the zoloft only seems to control my anger problem. what can i do? it seems if i take a step back and look at this from an outside view that i am a crappy person. i want to be a good mom and be happy like everyone else i know.

i have been on zoloft before this, when my son was born i went on it, i ended up on a high dose within a year that didn't work and i lost my job over it trying to wean to start something else. my current dr wanted me to try it again to help with the anger. i wouldn't ever hurt my kids, before i went back on zoloft i was a nut, always mad, but i never hurt them. it's the only part of my anger i can control.

yah i live alone with the kids

marseille you're wrong because i get the same attention from my family now as i did before and still feel like crap.

Answer 1

Post partum depression can be anything from mild tears to really drastic things. Yours sounds pretty out of control.

You need to call your doc right away and let them know what is going on and how you feel. You also need to call a family member or friend to see if you can get some help with the kids. If you can, hire someone to come in and help out during the day.

Babies can pick up on a lot of things and it could be feeling your anxiety and that is making it cry more.

Make sure to take the Zoloft as prescribed...in fact any medication you are put on you need to take it the way the doctor says.

I think you may need to see a different doctor too. Someone who deals with this kind of thing more.

Whatever you do, you need to get someone, even the baby's dad, to come over and help out until you get this under control. It's not good for you and it's definitely not good for the kids. You deserve to be the good mom you want to be...so make that call ASAP!

Good luck!

Answer 2

Been there done that. First of all you can get post partum up until the baby is a year old. Secondly it needs to be treated. I had the forgetting problem too SOOOO Put your calandar on the frige and first thing EVERY morning take your pill and put a star on the calandar ... if later in the day there is no star you know you didn't take it and so you take it then. 50 mg is a very low dose of Zoloft and you probably need to have it doubled....but it only works if you take it consistently and can take 4-6 weeks to really get the full effect but at least you know you are going to get better. If you dont there are other meds to try. The next step is to find time for yourself. Your spouse needs to take some time with the kids so you can take some time for yourself... take a long uninterrupted bath , go for a walk or just take a nap. Anything that involves you and no one else and this needs to happen at least 1 to 2 hours 5 to 7 days a week. You can not give of yourself to your family if you dont feel you have anything left in you to give. You are not a crappy person you are a sick person. If you had cancer and were unable to deal with the kids and life in general would you think you were a crappy person? No , you would think "Hey I deserve a break ... I am doing the best I can and I need some help until I get better." So cut yourself some slack and do what you need to do to get better. TAKE YOUR MEDS , rest and be kind to yourself. Trust me....I have gone through this 3 times to varying degrees and once it was so bad that I could not even imagine the possiblity that it would ever get better and the only thing that kept me here on Earth was the fact I kept telling myself that even if I am a crappy mom I am the only one they have and it would be wrong to take that from them. BUT it did get better with meds and help and now I can look back through clear eyes and marvel at how crazy that thinking seems now. You will get there too just keep taking those little steps every day towards the light at the end of the depression tunnel and one day you will reach the door and step out of it.

Answer 3

Honey you need to get to the doctor ASAP and tell him/her these feelings and discuss what to do. I know how you feel though, at times I just wanna run away....then they would only follow. Does daddy help? I mean, can he take over for an hour or so every now and then so you can get away and take a breather, whether it be going out somewhere or taking an hour long hot bath with the door locked and the music blaring? The depressed part isn't good and that should be taken care of cause that can be a bit scary. Get with some other mommies and get some ideas on different things to try with the kids, see if that helps out with stress any. I wish you the best of luck. These times sure can be very trying. God Bless you.

Answer 4

Yes, its possible to get post partum depression 3 months later...and it sounds like you could have it. Zoloft will ONLY work if you take it regularly and consistently (it does not work on the days you take it and not work on the days you dont - it's not that kind of medicine) It is like cholesterol medicine...if you take it one day, your cholesterol doesnt drop a bunch of points...it is a gradual thing, when you take it regularly, it will reduce your cholesterol. Same with Zoloft and depression. Take it regularly and see a doctor...it would probably benefit you to get some therapy.

Answer 5

post partum depression, every mom will feel it. Understand your feeling. you have to take your medicine and be patient. I have 3 kids, the youngest is 4 years, the age gap is so near, i know how u feel. but just bear in mind your kids is your angels and pray for strenght. u should take a break once in a while, ask your close family to look after the kids so that you could go out alone or with your friends. You will feel better. i used to drive out when i really can't stand the pressure and its worked.Be patient and take care

Answer 6

You may need to go talk to your Dr and see if they can put you on a another prescription. I have a 6 month old and thought i could take on the world. Then one day it can crashing in on me. I totally lost it. My little boy hid under his bed until his dad came home and my daughter bless her little heart just feel to sleep. the next day my mom took my oldest and my husband took the baby and i was sent to the dr and to have a day just to myself.

Now I take effexor and have at least 2 days out of the house by myself. To the store, to a friends house just out. sometimes i just walk around the block by myself and have time for just me.

That is what really helps me stay sain most days and i can tell you 3 months later i feel a lot better.
I still have my days with my 7 year old but all in all things are okay.

Talk to your doctor about how you are feeling and have a day, evening, hour, 30 mins just for you. You have to have that time for yourself. without it you will feel insane.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

you can, you should call your doctor. you may need to find a support group. maybe even a good babysitter for a night! have some me time! get a good night of rest. get rid of the zoloft! ask your doc to try something else. your concern shows that you are a good mom. we all have tough times. you'll get through this, you just need some help! another thing that helps me is getting out of the house, walking, just getting fresh air and sun! sleep is #1, i'd try that first!

Answer 9

you can use a break from your kids, ask your mom to come by to help you out or a girlfriend. i went through that and didnt have no medication bc my mom said its better to sometimes let nature take its course. i would literally have hot flash and be sitting outside in 20 degree weather sweating. i kepted taking deep breaths asking myself to calm down. and that the emptiness that you feel is only temporary. everytime i would look at my son when he cries, i start to cry or dont know what to do. i was in a bad situation, myson's father had cheated on me with my bestfriend when i was 6 months pregnant and after i had my son, so all that kinda had a response to what i was going through, but then i realize it snot my son's fault nor anyones fault, its everything happens for a reason. and you have to accept what has happened and try to gather yourself and become the best mom you can ever be. i had anger, i had depression. i fought it hard every day with no meds, i think i realized alot of things when my son was going on 3 months old. its like god came to visit me and blessed me to be stronger and have faith. your kids deserve the best of you. i dont know your situation, butif youre feeling like that i think you should ask for abreak and relax, and dont always rely on medication. i w ish you the best of luck and may god be you and your kids <3 have faith in yourself.

Answer 10

I feel for you, but dont just jump to meds right away. You need to really sit down and talk to your husband, family and doctor. You are human and you just need some help. It sounds like you are home alone with the kids and that can get very nerve racking. Even on the best of days its hard!!!! Motherhood is the hardest!!! One note and hear me on this dont EVER compare yourself to anyone else. You dont and will never know how someone really is in their life or how happy they truly are. On that note please talk this out with your loved ones, if you dont think they are listening make sure they know how you are feeling and try talking to your gyno they are trained in that as well.

Good Luck and God Bless :-)