My life has been turned upside down and tossed around recently ( another divorce, my God this is incredible ). I've rolled with it and now that the dust has settled a bit I find myself looking at uncharted territory and I'm amazed that I'm scared. Is this a common reaction?
2006-08-15 16:38:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married twice. That's what I meant by again.
2006-08-15 16:56:39 · update #1
it's common to be apprehensive about the unknown. even though you've been there before (you'd think your fear would be less) this situation may bring back a rush of unhappy and frightened memories from 'last time'. it's normal to be unhappy with the prospect of facing the unknown when your world was turned on its side. we all crave safety and security.
but you could look at your situation as an opportunity to start fresh. can you say to yourself, "i won't do the same thing i did last time"? if you can apply the things you experienced last time to your present state of affairs, perhaps you can be a little less afraid. it helps to know, it helps more to talk about it.
you're on the right course, my friend. looking ahead to your other questions, it would seem you have great things in store, my friend!
2006-08-16 14:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by patzky99 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. I went through it for the 3rd time 2 years ago. Only this 3rd marriage was 21 years. I lived through it and though it was scary it was also very wonderful and now my S/O and I are moving in together next month but I will NOT get married again cuz the last husband, who I loved, was a cheater and I finally realized it is just a flippin piece of paper.
Good Luck. Have fun. Be good to yourself.
2006-08-16 00:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's a very common reaction. Just take it day by day. It does get easier. By the way, what do you mean by another divorce? Anywho, just start doing things that you like and keep occupied and before you know it, the feeling will go away and you will wonder why you were afraid to begin with.
2006-08-15 23:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by aliveagain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is an uneasy feeling going out on your own again,I think we all have been there when there is loss.You will be fine and once you get over this feeling everything will look good again!
2006-08-15 23:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i cant help you there but just be possitive and know that if you have been married you must be doing some thing right..
just get out there and have fun stop lookinf and flirt be spontanious and enjoy life think happy thoughts lol...
i know life is hard but you can do it you will be ok...
2006-08-15 23:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be afraid just look forward to the future that acomes, meeting new people, and environment thats different.
2006-08-15 23:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but isn't it also very exciting. you get to start all over again
2006-08-15 23:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its common and perfectly normal. go with it
2006-08-15 23:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by motherof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is.
But I trust all will be well!
Good luck! :)
2006-08-17 02:01:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋