Some of you people have already heard about my mom, but for those of you that haven't here it goes: (people that have you can still help read the end of the paragraph)
Ok my mom died when I was 8 I am now 14, but instead of the hurt going away it comes stronger. It seems like everything I do reminds me of my mom now. So tonight I am going to text my 18 year old friend (she's like a sister to me) and tell whats been going on and see what she says I should do. BUT I DON"T KNOW HOW TO START OR WHAT TO TELL HER.
I text her a little bit last night and asked her why I was feeling the way I was but thats all i said. What else should I tell her? Cuz asking her questions didn't really help me any.
ONE IS TELLING ME THAT I NEED TO TELL EHR THAT I NEED TO TALK TO HER BUT I ALREADY KNOW THAT, I'M JUST WONDERING WHAT I SHOULD SAY SO SHE DOESN'T THINK THAT IM' JUST TRYING TO GET ATTENTION.
2006-08-15 16:35:20 · 8 answers · asked by Truthordarelover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
SO WHAT SHOULD I TELL MY FRIEND??? NOBODY IS REALLY HELPING ME!!
2006-08-15 16:46:57 · update #1
Its good to have someone to talk to.
2006-08-15 16:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by cheryl l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask your friend:
"Hey, you got a moment? I need to talk to someone" And roll with it.
I too, lost my mom when I was 8. She was my world!! She was a stay at home mom and in my life 24-7. Losing her was a shock. By the time I was 14, my father had already remarried and divoriced... I was a confused, angry teenager... that's just how it goes sometimes. #1 is that you find someone to talk to. This friend of yours, just be honest with her. Tell her what's going on and see if she can help. If nothing else, maybe she can help you talk to your father or someone else that can help you ease through things.
At 14 our hormones go nuts... so it's actually kinda normal to start feeling out of sorts or get this build up of anger and hurt. Just talk to someone hon, that's all you can do. Burying it down deep will only cause scars that take years to heal... I've been down that road.
Remember the good about your mother. Know how much she loved you and that right now she is watching over you and probably wants you to find peace with yourself. Talk to her at night if that helps... it always helps me.
Good luck hon. Just take it easy and try to talk it out with someone.
2006-08-16 00:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by mandabear3121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosing a parent is hard no matter what your age is. ( I lost my dad at 20) I am 26 now and still need him everyday! I think because you are so young and the world is so new to you. It is really hard without a mom to guide you on things that us women go through. If I were you. i would ask who ever is in charge of you to let you see a therapist. I had to see one after my dad. I had so much pain I just did not know what to do or who to talk too. It is going to be hard for you. One thing you need to remember is no matter what happens in life you mom is still here looking over you. You might not be able to see or touch her anymore. But she is there for you. you just have to believe in your heart.
One thing that helped me was I picked a star in the sky and said that is my dad. When ever I am lonely for him. i look at that star and think of the good times we had. I also sometimes talk to it! not out loud but in my head. I feel better when I can see something that reminds me of my dad.
You hang in there sweety and remember you are a good person and never follow the wrong crowed. because your mother would want you to be the best you could ever be!
2006-08-15 23:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom died not to long ago and it is something that will never go away but just tell your friend that something has been bother you and i want to know if you can help and she want think that you doing for attention cause if she is really your friend then she will want to her what bother you and i wish you the best of luck May God bless
2006-08-15 23:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by swwsept 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's really like a sister you shouldn't have problems talkin about your mom to her. but you should start with something you two did together when you were 8 and then go to how ur mom died. tell her u still feel bad from it
2006-08-16 01:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by greenT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it all out, stop freaking out about how you start the conversation. She is your friend and she just wants you to be happy and she can help you get through this.
2006-08-16 00:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her to log on to yahoo and go this section,tell her to answer this.Fuss free and tear free
2006-08-16 00:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your dad first.
2006-08-15 23:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by nelly78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋