Hello!
I am friends with this guy I know from church. I met him last year, and immediately developed a very strong crush on him. I was too nervous to tell him how I felt, so i watched him get away and start to date this other girl I know. I feel very depressed, alone, and hopeless, idk what to do about it. I want to STOP liking him, but I feel like he still likes me, cause he'll flirt w/ me, and I can't stop feeling this way! I keep going through a huge cycle of depression and then hope I'll get him back and then back to depression over and over. I want to stop this once and for all, but I can't tell him how I feel, because I don't think I could ever face him again if I did! Please help! ANY suggestions you have will certainly help me!
THANK YOU!!
2006-08-15 16:30:46 · 8 answers · asked by Aimee 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Ya, I know how that is. I think that you should try to be friends for now and see where it takes you. sometimes we girls take things too fast. Now, I kinda wish that I would have spent less time daydreaming about a certian guy and gotten to know him. Now I have to do that because he moved away. Just try not to get too hooked on him. It really hurts if anything happens. trust me, it did to me. Just also in the future, take things slower and don't get too crazy in case it happens all over again!
2006-08-15 16:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Rose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you shouldn't break them up !! If he is with someone else then leave him alone is the right thing to do! If it's meant to be, then they will break up one day without your help!! Why hurt someone else, by telling him how you feel? It could break them up and she may get hurt? Think if you were her , put yourself in the other persons shoes before you do something and see how you would feel! You wouldn't want that to happen to you, would you? Besides let's say if you told him and then he dumped his girlfriend for you, who is to say that one day he might do the same to you!!! There is more to a relationship you know? You can;t just tell someone you care about them that way ,while they are with someone else, it's not fair or Moral In my book! besides if its just a crush you have, those go away ! A crush doesn't last, and when he starts liking you, You may not like him anymore!! I had a crush when i was young, and when i found out the guy likes me back and came to see me and i got to talk to hm more and stuff , i found out i didnt feel that way anymore!! I mean i would be so nervous around him everytime i would see him and i couldn't even talk to the guy!! I had it bad, I thiught!!! I don't know your age, but this can happen when your young!! I don't why, but it can, i know!! Good luck, and just wait and see what happens.plus i srtongly beleive that a GUY should let a girl know first and when a guy is in love with you he will Show it and not be with someone else!! And then him Flirting with you while he has a girlfriend should tell you SOMETHING!!! doesn't it?? It would me!! Wouldn't he do the same to you? If you were his Girlfriend?? You know how he was flirting with you when he had a gilfriend, so then wouldn't you worry he might be flirting with another girl behind your back too! I think soo!!
2006-08-15 23:56:38 · answer #2 · answered by sports_runner_racing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he might be a great guy in your vision, but if he's dating someone and he has the nerve to flirt with you rather than have a nice chat, chances are, if he's dating you, you'll catch him flirting with other girls.
You're a teen, things like "depression" will get in the way. I'm a teen too but my "depression stage" has passed. If he liked you, he would've asked you out. You also seem like you don't have a lot of self esteem.
Don't be nervous girl! There are many, probably cuter, guys out there! Don't think you're alone or hopeless, you have friends right behind you supporting you all the way, so don't worry about it.
2006-08-15 23:53:35 · answer #3 · answered by cyn1c4l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he wasn't interested in you or he would be dating you, but you didn't lose out you sound like a young sweet girl your time is going to come so just move on you will find that special good guy you need to be with...don't ever hope for something Hopeless...Hope for something that is in front of you and likes you and wants to respect you ...good luck...
2006-08-15 23:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is that you might have some insecurity issues about yourself. Don't be afraid to ask a trusted adult about either insecurity or depression.
He most likely knows of your interest, but society looks down on guys who react with compassion, so he's probably not going to say anything. Do you trust him? Is he a nice person? Or are you afraid that revealing your feelings toward him will elicit a rejection?
2006-08-15 23:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by educatexan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I do is have a friend ask him out for me. If he says no tell him u didnt tell her to do that she just wanted to know what he would say.
2006-08-15 23:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by spoiled_punkprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him how u feel and hope for the best
2006-08-15 23:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound very young,bugger this boy concentrate having fun with your girlfriends.
2006-08-15 23:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋