i am truely in love but I feel like I wasnt cut out for this. i am a christian and do not beleive in divorce, unless absolutly nessasry. I feel like a failure. i would be absolutly misserable with out him.
2006-08-15 16:27:05 · 7 answers · asked by sillyone 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i know where you are comming from i have been married for 10 years to a great guy and i still wonder if i did the right thing when things are rockey with us i sit down and write a note to him but i never give it to him unless he has truely hurt me somehow and i think that a threat letter will help my husband has figured out now that when i write in a book andclose it fast when he comes around that their is something wrong and will either read the note or ask what it said and if i can't tell him i let him read the note note writing really helps me and is the way i cleans my soul good luck and stick with it things will work out there is a saying that the first 7 years of marrage are the toughest so good luck
2006-08-15 16:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by christy b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought of all of that before you married him. Well, since you don't believe in divorce I would say that you're just going to have to learn how to cope. You need to give yourself less time to think about this. I'm guessing that you don't work. Maybe you should think of looking for a job, even part time would help you get your mind onto more productive thoughts. Above all, don't make any hasty decisions. Give the relationship time to grow and morph, which it will if it's healthy. You have an obligation not to hurt your husband just because you're having second thoughts.
2006-08-15 16:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I am truely in love but I feel like i wasn't cut out for this." Then you should have not gotten married. If you're having doubt about your commitment level, it was a very bad idea to marry him. I think you need counseling. You need to figure out why you have commitment issues. It's not fair to your husband or your marriage you feel this way.
2006-08-15 16:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by glamr216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings will pass, i think its normal to freak out with the thought of "forever" ..And unfortunately it sets in after the marriage rather then before.. just keep taking it one day at a time.. keep loving him every day.. and pretty soon u'll look back and laugh about these fears that u have.. its natural .. so dont give up hope just yet, ur only a failure if u breach ur marriage vows , or give up..
2006-08-15 16:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a counceler ASAP. A licensed marriage councelor. We did and it was the best thing we ever did for our marriage. We also learned skills to communicate with each other and solve future probs. If he won't go, then go by yourself. Millions of couples will give you the same answer. By the way, our counceling was 30 yr ago.
2006-08-15 16:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk about whatever's bothering you. i was just married last june and some little things were bothering me too, and you'd be surprised what a relief it is just to talk to your spouse and get things out in the open. marriage is a huge adjustment...the best part is that you have someone else going through it at the same time to relate to - your husband/wife! good luck!
2006-08-15 16:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by moondancer629 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to a counselor about your feelings. Could be something happened in your past (even as a child) that maybe causing these feeling you now have as and adult.
2006-08-15 16:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it takes time to realize that you are married to the same person for the rest of your life, if it doesnt workout, then you can learn from your mistakes, and look forward to the future that acomes
2006-08-15 16:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you asking?
2006-08-15 16:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by DJT28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋