stressed and 3 months prego?

Question

i am 3 months and i messed with a married man..sometimes i feel like i dont want my baby...but i love it so much and im not giving it away for nothing...the guy is married and he dont want me to keep it..it is apart of me i love this baby allready...he says i cant love it allready and i do...anyone else been threw this

Answer 1

Honey, you've got yourself in a fine mess! What the dickens are you fooling with a married man for? It's pretty obvious that he does not want the child you are carrying, probably because he already has a family and by the sounds of it he doesn't want to give his fisrt family up. Ths fellow just wants you for sex and what's going to happen when your pregnancy is advanced and you can no longer have sex? Bet you he looks for someone else! And besides, do you not think that this guy won't do to you what he's doing to his wife right now down the road. Cheaters never quit, if your out of commision, he'll just look for someone else to fill your shoes. It's also obvious that he does not have any feelings for you either and I say this because he is telling you to get rid of the baby without considering who is carrying the baby and how you must feel about it. Honey, I know how you feel as years ago I was in your shoes. The guy dumped when I got pregnant and I was so stressed that eventually after the baby was born, he didn't live a day. I sure hope that you don't go through that experience.
I would suggest to keep your baby, leave this guy as he is not good for you asnd the baby. You can do this as there is a lot of help out there for unwed mothers such as yourself. You most certainly don't need someone who does not care how you feel and wants to get rid of the tiny life growing inside you. It tells me that this guy is in this relationship only for his own gratification and sweetie you are obliging him, don't let him use you this way. You must be a nice girl and you can do better. Trust me honey, I've been down your road and it's not worth the heartache or the stress as look what it did to my little baby.

Answer 2

I've not messed with a married man but I have felt your pains. I was date-raped with my first baby. I hated him, and hate is such a strong emotion. But I loved my baby - at first I didn't want her, didn't want to be happy about her - didn't know if I should be. I worried all the time that if I kept her I'd always remember "him". But that's not the case. She's two now, never met him, never will as far as I'm concerned. You can still love her/him.

A man will never understand that bond a mother has so early on. It's not growing inside of him, it is you. Do what YOU can live with, not him. YOU will forever have to live with YOUR choices - if he has a family elsewhere, he is only worried about them finding out. He isn't thinking about YOUR feelings. Tell him that you don't care what he wants, this is your family. He has one elsewhere. Don't believe him if/when he says he'll leave them for you - although by the sounds of it he won't. But just in case - just remember - it's your life, your baby, your decision.

I hope this has helped. Remember, if you want to keep this baby, you are right to do that. I'm both mama and daddy to my 2 kids. Neither of them have met their dads. I would never be able to do adoption, only because I have a friend who was adopted - she wanted to everyday find her birth mom and dad, but never has. Abortion is way off lines - especially if you love your baby. But in the end, it's your choice. Remember that. If you ever need to talk, just e-mail me [e-mail]

God Bless...

Answer 3

Wow, what a way to start life. Adoption would be the best most unselfish thing to do for this child. How would you feel if you couldn't see your dad (who probably won't want to see him/her) because he is married? And what a jerk anyway!! Is this really who you would want to be with even if he were available?
Honey, think about the child you love so much. How is he or she going to be happy growing up like that?
My husband is adopted and he had a wonderfully normal life with two parents who loved him. And a birth mother who loved him enough to give him what she couldn't, two parents.
I know it's a tough choice, and you would really have to decide if you could live with it. Just try to see what the baby's life will be like and make your decision based on that.

Answer 4

Never been through a thing like this before. But if the guy is married and he does not want the baby. THE HELL WITH HIM!! Leave raise the baby alone and never talk to him again! By sleeoing with this man you are only hurting yourself! You need to get the strength to get out and raise your child. That is all you can really do

Answer 5

I have not been through it, no. I just wanted to send on a virtual hug and a bit of a pep talk....
You're chalk-full of hormones right now. Your life is changing...as is your body. Just try to relax. Knowing you love the baby is enough for now. We all have those little doubts and fears. It's NORMAL. Don't listen to what a man you're not serious about wants. It's your child, your body, and YOUR family. You'll be fine...just try to relax some and know that loving your little womb-bound child is all you can do right now - emotionally - for it. Keep healthy, keep up the Dr visits and vitamins, and just try to stay as stress-free as you can. In a few more months you'll have the little one in your arms.

Hang in there and best of luck!

Answer 6

you need to stop messing with him, he just doin't want his wife to find out.and yes you love your baby,you do not need to be stressed out that can cause you yo miscarrier.forget him.go on he's the one making the mistake he will always no he has a child in the world that has never met his father.it's not good for the child but aslong as the baby has it's mama it needs no one else.you can be mama and daddy, and who nows you will met someone else and he will have a daddy.it happens everyday.so doin't feel bad.look at it like this my relationship with him was a mistake but my baby isn't.that's a gift from god!!!

Answer 7

calm down you can love this baby but not the a-- you messed with he must not love you if he dose not want the baby or his wife and he will do same to you do your thing have this baby yes it will be hard but don't give up or into him . he would just win and move on to some else

Answer 8

screw the guy! its about you and the baby! take good care of yourself! you obviously don't want to give it up-so don't! you can love it already! he is the one that messed up! being a single mom is hard but you can do it! you can also get child support from him or he can surrender his rights, might want to find some free legal advice about that stuff! good luck and God bless you and your baby!

Answer 9

you need to tell that guy to take a hick and tell him if he doesnt want the baby then leave you alone and dont try and see the baby when its born i would never give my child up because of some guys!!! but thats just my own opinion just remember your the one thats has to live with it the rest of your life not HIM!!!!!!

Answer 10

Being a single mom isn't that hard anymore...there is lots of help everywhere and it is pretty common. Look at it how I do with my three...now there is no one to argue with over how to raise them!! Love the baby and love yourself...screw him, he cheated on his wife, he already has no values so don't listen to him. Good Luck and Congratulations!!!!!!