Do women ever have to pay child support? I believe most of the time women should get custody of a child,but...

Question

I believe that there are many fathers who would be much better at raising a child, like the real caring type who doesn't drink, go out all the time with women, etc., than the mother who doesn't care, drinks a lot, has men stay over all the time, etc. I ask again-Do these women have to pay child support, and if not why?I know that many men are s.o.b.s and should pay support, but some men just don't have it. Wouldn't it be wonderful for women on disabilty who complain about men on disabilty not paying child support to see what it feels like after spending all of their money on bills and groceries,and household goods,and car repairs and house repairs and appliance repairs, car and other insurance and high medical bills and medicine that the insurance doesn't cover, and then only getting to see their child a few days a month and then having to pay extra for food and expenses for the child, and many other necessities. If they could only trade places for a year, would they still complain??

Answer 1

Yes, if the man gets the children, the woman has to pay child support. I have a couple of friends who this is happening to and they are getting child support from their ex-wives. I also have a friend who put his ex in jail for not paying. She quit her job so she didn't have to pay. I do believe that it should go both ways. Whoever does not have the kids should pay support and not complain because it does take a lot of money to raise kids today.

Answer 2

A child is a product of two people, one should not have more ownership than the other. Should one parent want to give up there right to the child they should be allowed to, and not have to pay child support. You can't make a person be a parent just because they made a child.

In the United States there are more woman not paying child support (even though they were ordered to do so) than men. (see link below)

There is no such thing as an accidental pregnancy, woman have complete control over this. Most times women use this phase when they want to trap a man (it doesn't work) or they just want to have a "child to love". These woman above every one else are the ones who should not be a parent.

This whole system of collecting money for support is stupid. Since when has anyone had enough money, weither a one parent or a two parent family?

Maybe we should start having classes in schools training woman to keep their legs together and how to use birth control and how to pick a mate. The men need to take a the "how to pick a mate" class and classes in how not to think with their "thingy".

Answer 3

The answer is yes. My niece's mother pays my brother child support. She originally had custody but due to drugs and alcohol and disrepsect for the courts, she lost custody to my brother who put the child in counseling and provided a stable environment (one she had never had prior to the custody change). It took a lot to get custody flipped. But it does happen. and yes the mother has to pay.

Now I know for a fact, raising a child is expensive. Especially younger ones that grow out of their clothes every time you blink. I supported my daughter without my ex paying a dime for quite some time. Seemed like everytime the state caught up with him, he would lose the job. For the first time in two years and $9000+ owed to me in back, the ex is FINALLY making consistent payments. IT's a miracle and makes it much easier to provide for our child. It is not something that I will hold my breath about and he isn't making any thing toward the back payments but its something. I went as far as requesting the state drop the monthly debt by a hundred dollars. I'd rather see something than nothing. You seem to think that if a woman has custody that she doesn't pay support. HELLO? Who is paying to raise the child whether or not the father is paying support. Do you honestly think monthly support obligations are anywhere sufficient to cover the average cost of raising a child (figure the average daycare charges about $160 a week for care. Most obligations don't even cover that let alone what the cost for food, toys, entertainment, school stuff, extra curriculars like sports and dance, and clothes cost in any given month. Get real, the non support parent typically is getting off light in regards to the costs being spent for the child. I would love to see an even and equal breakdown of cost but then you would have to many non custodials complaining even more than they do now. If you create a child, you are 50% responsible for the cost of caring and raising the child no matter how often you see it.

Answer 4

Whoever has custody of the child is entitled to receive child support based on the income of the noncustodial parent. The gender of the custodial parent/noncustodial parent is irrelevant. If the noncustodial parent does not have income but has the ability to work, then the court has the right to assign child support based on the noncustodial parent's ability to earn. Mom's without custody are NOT supposed to get off free.

That being said, there are cases where the system does not work that way. For example, if a Dad with custody wants the Mom out of the kids life completely and does not even want support and the Mom agrees, the judge has the discretion to grant that request. (Assuming that it is in the best interest of the child and the Dad makes enough to raise the kid without the help.)

Additionally I have seen cases where judges were a little biased in their enforcing of the child support laws. I have seen cases where women should have been thrown into jail for being in contempt of a child support order, but instead the judge gave them "one more chance." Sometimes men are given one more chance too, but in my experience there is more of a tendency to be lenient towards the Moms. When that happens, I think it is wrong. A "deadbeat Mom" is just as bad as a "deadbeat Dad" - and the child suffers just as much.

Answer 5

I personally feel no matter if the non custodial parent is a man or a woman, they should have to contribute financially to the children.. they are just as responsible for the child as the other parent.. im so sick of hearing People complain about having to pay child support.. if u dont want to pay child support then dont have any kids plain and simple, but if a child is brought into this world, then u need to pay to help raise them.. u would help if they lived in your household.. so why not when ur not in the household, im so sick of hearing people complain about it as if they are giving the mother of the child money.. THE MONEY GOES TOWARDS THE CHILD.. rent, elec, groceries, clothes ect.. all the necessities... EVERY parent should have to contribute to the up bringing of a child.. money is only a portion of what it takes to raise a child..

Answer 6

I know that Haylow might find this hard to believe, but when woman are ordered to pay support, almost 80% of them don't, but you never hear about Oprah having a show about deadbeat moms. The system is set up against fathers. payment amounts are often set up without taking changes of income into account . I say make child support just that. Every 6 months or so make the custodial parent account for the money they received and how it was spent. That should cut down on the money spent on boyfriends and partying and make sure that the child support money is instead spent on supporting the child.

Answer 7

My fiance's ex wife walked out on him and their 3 daugthers, and she owes alot of money to the arrears in child support for those 3 girls. She was in the army got out married a guy in the military and played mom to his 2 kids when she could not be a mother to her own 3 children, so my fiance filed with the cs unit here in ny to file charges in the state she lives in nc and she has gone to jail for not paying support she reenlisted in the the military and get's done with her training some time this month and then the child support will be took out of her pay directly so who ever said the women had it easy paying child support was wrong, My faince pays child support to his 2nd ex wife for their son and I do have to say he does the best he can to provide for all four of his children. He has my help and support to help him I watch his 3 girls for him when he's at work, I watch his children in exchange for rent he helps pay the bills in the house besides what i make and I am taking care of my two sons with out no child support from their father. So there are men out there who do have custody and women who have to pay. The title dead beat dad should go more like dead beat parents because women can just be as bad as men in the support area

Answer 8

In Australia, whichever parent does not have custody of the child/children is expected to pay child support to the custodial parent. Even parents on social security - albiet this is only a nominal amount.

Unfortunately, there are still a lot of parents (both mums and dads) who do everything they can to get out of paying it.

Answer 9

Sometimes men are granted custody, and yes, in that case they would get child support if the woman is making enough money to be able to do so. It would be up the lawyers and the court to decide.

Answer 10

My boyfriend has primary custody of his son, of which the ex wife gave up the son in the divorce. she does not pay child support and was never ordered to under the condition she just leave my man alone. now that i have entered the picture, she all of a sudden wants custody and, listen to this, wants child support for herself.. my man's lawyer just laughed and said "it'll be a cold day in hell before that woman gets this boy"