I met a guy whom I liked very much. We went on a few dates. He seemed to like me a lot when he was with me but always let a little too much time pass before he called me between dates which gave me the impression that he did not like me so much. Then I want away for two months, he did not contact me in any way so I gave up on him. But I never told him that I was disappointed he never called. I figured that he should have known I'd be disappointed since it's not like we are teenagers (we are both late twenties). I think he knew very well before I left that I liked him.
Now I heard that he is back with his ex-GF. He had left her because she was pressurizing him to get married. But she wanted to get back together and he accepted. My friends tell me I made a mistake and that I should have tried to be with him harder. What do you think? It is also possible he used me as a rebound. A man would've pursued if he really liked a woman, wouldn't he? Thanks a lot for reading!
2006-08-15 15:51:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he just came out of a relationship where the woman rode roughshod over him and you tried to be subtle???? well if you were thinking then you wouldn't have thought that. Sorry but come on.... he is accustomed to a woman that is forceful about everything she wants and you think he will just automatically know that you want to be pursued??
2006-08-15 15:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but I think you were rebound. He had history with the girlfriend, not you. IF she gave a good enough reason, any man would go back if she had some ability to make him happy and make him love her. You didn't do anything wrong. Unfortunately people that are in the way of love tend to get hurt.
2006-08-15 22:57:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wasn't over her yet when he hooked up with you. It is possible that you were just a rebound to him. I don't agree with your friends. There's nothing you could've done to make someone stay with you if he wasn't ready to leave his gf. He would've pursued you only if he was ready to be in a new relationship. Move on and find someone who's not carrying around extra baggage.
2006-08-15 23:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebound or not, if he was truly interested we would have wanted to call and be with you more often. Pressuring him to see you would probably have backfired. Don't worry. What you need is a man who can't wait to be near you, the kind of guy that would go back to you if you had a disagreement :D
Look at it this way, it's his loss.
2006-08-15 23:14:50 · answer #4 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Na u did the right thing.. if he was really interested he would of put more effort into it.. be thankful u didnt get to attached, he would of eventually gone back to the x, he obviously realized that he wanted to be with her more then he knew.. so eventually he would of anyways.. so be greatful that it wasnt as hurtful as it could of been.. no relationship will work if only one person is putting in all the effort.. so shake it off and just realize he wasnt the one and keep searching for mr. right..
2006-08-15 23:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing! Remember if a man likes you he will call or move a mountain to get to you! If he doesnt he is not into you! Your friends are wrong you cant force a man to like you he will run every time!
2006-08-15 23:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were a fill in. I think he was trying to get back with the ex while dating you. Oh well lift your head and start to enjoy life again. There are sweet guys out there waiting. Good luck.
2006-08-15 22:57:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...guys do not take hints. Second, it appears he never left his ex-gf out of his mind...under those circumstances, you had no chance...dont feel bad, he was on the rebound when you met him. Sorry to be so blont, but its the truth
2006-08-15 22:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ricardo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously was thinking of her and going back to her...but don't feel bad you can find someone...just not one thats on the rebound
2006-08-15 23:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man should have....let him be, dear one. You seem to have a realistic head on your shoulders. The right man will come along eventually...you will know when you need to fight for him.
2006-08-15 22:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by rrrevils 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋