fiancee had a child and didn't tell me about it. We have been together for six years and all of a sudden a fifteen year old comes to my house and calls me dad. He expects me to just accept it and not ask any questions because it is before my time.
2006-08-15 15:48:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me make some clarifications. my fiancee and i have lived together for five years and this teenager just pops up at our door and calls him dad. I have never seen this teenager until this moment. He never mentioned her and his mother had heard about it when the little girl was around five but then she never heard anything since. I just don't know what to do. I have a one year old with him and a eight year old that is not for him, but he has been in her life since she was two. We also lost our other daughter we had together in 2004. Please help me, I am really hurting here.
2006-08-15 16:07:20 · update #1
No way to establish trust after that...
I'm sorry you had to go through it after already making a commitment.
My ex had been seeing someone shortly before we met, and she got pregnant. I didn't find out until the baby was 1, and we'd been together for 18 months. Then he never would go see her, and I had a problem with that. What kind of person does not involve themselves in their child's life? Obviously not the kind I wanted to be with. I gave him PLENTY of time to get himself together, but after five years, I knew it would never happen - and if his own flesh and blood couldn't count on him, neither could I.
Good Luck. I hope you find someone worthy of your trust.
2006-08-15 16:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by HearKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What state is this in? Or is this even in the US? In Illinois, this doesn't fly because of the fallout from the toddler Richard Case. I actually have had an adoption case formerly the position the mummy refused to assert who the daddy grow to be. even as we were by no skill able to get her into court (because the mummy grow to be no longer desirous to take the time to happen in court to consent to the adoption), we nevertheless had to do be conscious by technique of e-e book on the perfect recognize manage of the daddy . the overall public coverage is that a baby has a suitable to have a courting at the same time with his/her dad and mom. If the mummy already gave beginning, and is putting the newborn up for adoption, why shouldn't the daddy have the danger to have custody of the minor newborn? many cases the daddy might want to no longer merchandise, yet there are documented circumstances the position they do merchandise. this may be diverse if the problem grow to be no matter if the mummy might want to be compelled to provide beginning instead of have an abortion.
2016-11-25 20:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by mengesha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends how much you love this man. You two have been through really bad times together. I don't think that you should dump him that is stupid. People are idiots and just take the easy way out. It is not like he cheated on you. I would just ask him why he never told you about it. If he does not tell you then tell him there is a major issue of trust between you. Assure him that you love him no matter what. Just tell him that you know that it is his past and that you love everything about him, even his past. Hope this helps.
2006-08-15 16:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by meesh_nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats messed up. You're together 6 years and engaged to be married and she forgets to mention she has a son?
2006-08-15 16:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is messed up, how unobservant are you??? how did you go six years without noticing a teenager, it's not like they are small and can be hidden during your visits??
2006-08-15 16:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally wrong. If she is keeping secrets like that from you then how is your marriage gonna be? I'd get out if I were you.
2006-08-15 15:53:52 · answer #6 · answered by angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wonder what else they kept from you leave the mate as fast as you can before something else comes up and bites you in the ****
2006-08-15 16:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok- i didn't really understand-- i'm assuming that somebody lied about this 15 y/o so should that person be trusted?? no -
2006-08-15 16:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
roll with the punches if you truly love him, that is all i can say
2006-08-15 16:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Karen Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long and farewell. . .
2006-08-15 15:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋