My baby brother who is 6 years old just began school this year...about 1 week ago. He is in the first grade anyway there is a little boy whom he befriended while in the kindergarten who is of a different race. Anyway this year my brother was excited to see the boy in his 1st grade class but to his dismay the little boy made some skin color jokes and said some not nice racial things to him. I have tried to explain to my brother that the little boys parents must be teaching him these things at home and not to be upset...I also suggested he find some other friend to play with. This is making him very upset he states that everyday he begs little boy to play with him but the little boy degards him and makes him feel worse. Today my brother came home and stated that he "hates" this other race of people and that they are all crazy. I dont want for that to be his outlook on life. When/if you were ever faced with this type of problem. How did you encourage the child and solve the problem? Thank
2006-08-15 15:40:31 · 10 answers · asked by comingofage03 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
How sad...unfortunately, I think you are correct when you say that the friend's attitude has all of the sudden changed because of things he's hearing at home! I firmly believe that racism is a learned behavior...generally, children as young as your brother don't see black or white in people and are so innocent. Would you or your parents be comfortable talking to the boy's parents? Maybe the teacher could be of some help, too. Talk to your brother about the hate issue and explain that just because one person is unkind, does not mean that everyone is unkind. Children are also quite resilient and more than likely in a week or two, the situation will have changed. Good Luck!
2006-08-15 15:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children this age are very influenced by everything around them. The media and primetime television are not good teachers with regard to tolerance. If your brother is the victim of any type of harrassment, your parents should call the school counselor or principal to report this behavior. Many times children say these things out of earshot of adults, so the teachers are unaware of what is going on. A problem of this nature should not be left for six year olds to resolve on their own. The adults should get involved.
2006-08-15 22:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by davis0375 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmph! I faced it myself. I had attended private school up until 6th grade. I befriended a black guy. After being friends with him for a couple of months, one day he just started acting ugly. It broke my heart because I thought he was a real good friend. Unfortunately, your brother will learn the hard way that some folks just aren't nice. I've found more black people act out racial hatred than any 10 white folks. Each to their own. Just keep telling him that not every black child is like that, just the stupid ones.
2006-08-15 22:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you don't want him to hate other people from a different race. Try to teach him to "turn the other cheek", treat others the way you want to be treated and to take up for himself, don't be ashamed of who he is, and respect people in general. Report this to the teacher, and if doesn't help, go to the principal, and push come to shove, the Board of Education if the problem continues.
2006-08-15 22:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by tiniri11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your parents take it to the principal, especially since it makes for an uncomfortable learning environment for your brother. There is no reason for this to continue, and better to teach the other kid what's acceptable and what's not at an early age.
2006-08-15 22:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep on telling him what you have been saying and also tell him that not all of that specific race is like that. Also, ask him if he wants to be like that boy. Because he would be stooping to that kids level instead of being a "big" person about it.
2006-08-15 22:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by What!? No Way!? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would look for a private school. Its costly but it pays dividends in the long run.
Homeschooled kids, in general, tend to do extremely well in all aspects: Physical fitness, social, logic skills, etc.
I went through public schools, I hated it.
2006-08-15 22:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Archer Christifori 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would be going to the school and talking to the teachers and prinicipals. This has to be addressed now.
2006-08-15 22:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by starting over 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT tell the principal/teachers. This will make it worse for your brother. other than that, I don't know.
2006-08-15 22:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by kevin g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'D RAISE HELL-----MY DAUGHTER IS 1/2 BLACK----LET ME TELL YOU WHEN I WAS DONE WITH TEACHER AND THE PRINCIPAL IT DIDN'T HAPPEN AGAIN------THREAT OF A LAWSUIT GOES A LONG WAY
AB
2006-08-15 22:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by alice b 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋