My boyfriend and I met on the internet. We moved in together after 3 days. Now 8 months later we seem to be missing something.(the spark). We still care about each other and help each other out. We still talk everyday and see each other about 3 days a week. We are not sure if we should walk away totally or try to work things out. We care about each other but dont know where to pick up the peices just wanted to know if anyone has any advise..
p.s. we moved into seperate houses 2 months ago......
p.s.s...he claimed he was gonna date other people to see how that felt but has yet to go out with any girls not even friends after months...
2006-08-15 15:26:07 · 4 answers · asked by aimlynsmi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WELL, TO BE HONEST WITH YOU, MEETING OVER THE INTERNET, YOU NEVER GAVE YOURSELVES ANY VISUAL AND PERSONAL INSIGHT BEFORE YOU ALL MOVED IN. THEN, 3 DAYS, YOU HARDLY KNEW EACH OTHER. YOU ALL WERE PROBABLY INFATUATED WITH EACH OTHER, OR MAYBE JUST LONELY AT THE TIME, AND NEEDED THAT COMFORT ZONE THAT YOU ALL FOUND IN EACH OTHER. SO TO SUM IT UP, YOU REALLY DIDN'T KNOW WACH OTHER LONG ENOUGH TO EVEN GET INVOLVED AS FAR A MOVING IN. YOU SHOULD HAVE DATED FOR AT MEAST 3 MONTHS TO SEE IF THIS PERSON IS RIGHT FOR YOU. NEXT, YOU ALL SEPERATED AND THEN HE SAID HE WAS GOING TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE, SOUNDS LIKE HE REALLY HAS GOTTEN BORED. WELL, IF YOU WANT TO GET BACK THE SPARK, YOU HAVE TO FIND NEW WAYS OF TURNING EACH OTHER ON. HAVE YOU EVER TRIED THE NICKLES ON THE HANDS TECHNIQUE. ONE OF MY FAVORITE GAMES TO SPICE THINGS UP. WHAT YOU WANT TO DO IS BOTH OF YOU GET BUTT NAKED, THEN, YOU STAND UP AGAINST SOMETHING, LIKE A DRESSER, AND PLACE YOUR HANDS ON THE EDGE HOLDING YOURSELF UP. LET HIM PUT ONE NICKLE ON THE TOP OF EACH ONE OF YOUR HANDS. THE OBJECT OF THIS IS TO HAVE YOUR MATE, TOUCH, LICK, KISS OR "ANYTHING" ELSE OR DO ANYTHING TO TRY TO GET THOSE 2 NICKLES TO MOVE. TO SPICE THINGS UP, PUT A TIME LIMIT ON IT. THEN SWITCH PLACES, LET HIM LAY DOWN, AND PLACE 1 NICKLE ON THE TIP OF HIS NOSE, AND YOU DO WHAT EVER YOU CAN TO MAKE HIM SQUIRM. TWIST OR FLINCH AND MAKE THAT NICKLE FALL. SOUNDS SILLY, WELL SILLINESS WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE MAKE THE SPARK IN A RELATIONSHIP COME ALIVE
2006-08-15 15:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by Knuckles06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible.Jealousy works sometimes.Total separation could help -you realize what you lost.What doesn't help is going on like this and watching the relationship fade.Don't be a friend.Be a lover.Don't make it easy for him.Men don't want it easy ,they loose interest.No one should take you for granted.That's when you loose the spark.
2006-08-15 15:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mistake
2006-08-15 15:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by Israel G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts after only 8 months, move on. Don't waste anymore time on him. Good Luck.
2006-08-15 15:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋