my mom and i fight all the time, and i am really getting sick of it. i am only 15, so i have to spend a few more years with her, and i really dont want them spent like this. what should i do? i really want to get along with her!
2006-08-15 15:23:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My daugher and I use to fight all of the time and we realized that one our biggest reasons that we faught is because we were so much alike. We talked about this many times and learned that there were subjects we had to avoid when we were in certain moods and that we had to approach sensitive topics differently. You are 15, you are at an age where you are mature enough to initiate a conversation with your mother re; sitting and talking about why you are uncomfortable with your relationship.
2006-08-23 04:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fifteen was probably the most difficult year of my life! My mom and I had endless fights. Im 26 now, and looking back, Im not really even sure why we fought so much. I think it was just my age. I was developing into my own person, yet my mother wanted to continue dictating what I did with my time. It's a very difficult period of time in life. I feel for you, but you will get through it. My mom and I have an awesome relationship now. She is my best friend, and we talk about everything. I think you just gotta keep reminding yourself (and her) that you guys love eachother and you DONT HAVE TO fight. Try talking instead and working through disagreements. And, remember if you expect her to give a little, you also have to. Good luck!
2006-08-22 10:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by tru_til_da_end 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a real smart guy. Take it from a guy whose been there, make every effort to get along with your mom. Shes like all moms just going though a phase in her life and you got caught up in the cross fire. Be the better person, try to stay out of harms way. She'll notice your making an effort and all will be back to normal. The most important thing is not to get into any sort of confrontation then its a whole different ball game.
2006-08-23 06:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bite your tongue the next time she says or does something that irritates you. Maybe ask her, "What did you mean by that?" if it offends you. Sometime when all is quiet, walk up and say something nice, give her a hug, tell her you love her. Sit down some quiet time and talk about it. Say something like, "I don't know why we fight so much". Do you have to change your attitude towards chores or other responsibilities? I'm pretty sure that if you can make even one of these gestures, your mom will respond. Trust me, she hates the fighting just as much as you do.
2006-08-21 23:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by R. F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and talk to her and let her know how you feel And another thing its going to be times when your mom say something you don't like or tell you to do something you don't like but trust me she want tell you anything wrong i tell this to everybody I lost my mom about four years ago and before that we stayed fighting and i felt just how you are feeling now and i think about her alot and i never got a chance to tell her that i love her so she died knowing that we never got along just please for me please stop the figthing with your mom and the time that you two put in fighting use that time to tell each other how much you love each other because when she is dead an going you are going to regret it i never had the chance to make my mother pride of me so i feel I'm doing it now because of me helping everyone and letting them know to Cherish their mother
2006-08-21 03:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, the rest of your life you are going to have to suck it up and get along with people that you dont want to. people in highschool, people in college, bosses at work, customers/clients, neighbours. it just doesn't end and the difference is, all of THESE people do not love you like your mother Loves you, so why not try to get along with her, if for no other reason than to practise getting along with difficult people so that you can deal with the fellow students, teachers, workers, bosses, customers, neighbours etc.
2006-08-22 09:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by capollar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls at 14 and 15 are hormonal and are at odds with their mothers on a daily basis. They think they know everything but don't want to listen to the wisdom the mother has to offer. You should keep your mouth shut. Listen to your mother...and keep your opionions to your self about what you believe is right.
2006-08-22 10:53:49 · answer #7 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knwo it is hard talking to your mom...but sit down with her like an adult and explain to her how the fighting makes you feel...dont yell....take the time to listen as well
2006-08-22 16:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Margarita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you fight about? if you know what it's about then maybe you could try to bend to her ways then maybe you could get along ,but you do need to sit down and discuss how you feel with her .she's your mom and if you can't talk to her who can you talk to.
2006-08-21 09:22:41 · answer #9 · answered by Chana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice as a mother is... Don't give her an "attitude", don't be nasty towards her, and don't smart mouth her. Mentally think of yourself as a sweet and kind girl, and your behavior will eventually follow your thoughts. Good luck!
2006-08-15 15:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋