2006-08-15 15:19:55 · 48 answers · asked by Jill 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No he is not cheating. Men are visual. Why not join him sometime?
Good luck!
2006-08-15 15:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-24 11:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lorraine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who answer this question yes it is cheating is crazy. If you dont like it, that's one thing, But no way is looking at porn cheating. My definition of cheating is having some type of sexual relationship with another person. Not looking at sex in a magazine or on the internet. Get really ,sometimes looking at porn you can learn something new.
2006-08-15 16:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure in your husbands eyes it is NOT cheating, but in your heart you feel cheated on. Have you let him know how you feel about it? Chances are he will be or has been defensive about it. Don't give up....you have a RIGHT to feel HURT by his actions. Don't let ANYONE tell you that "all guys do it" so it is to be expected. Men have free will just like we do and they can CHOOSE to view porn or NOT CHOOSE to view it. There is no one MAKING them do it. Society allows men to feel that pornography is "out of their control" and wives should just "expect it and look the other way". I am here to tell you that, in NO WAY does pornography HELP a relationship. Porn is a LIE a fantasy. And when men (or women) view it they begin to expect unrealistic ideals from their mate. Ask your husband to go to counseling. Pray for him. Talk to him without nagging. You know what works with your husband. Whatever it takes, lead him AWAY from all pornography. Nothing good comes of it.
2006-08-15 15:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by guatemama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not cheating... and I understand when you say it hurts your feelings, but keep in mind that when he looks at that, his feelings are not involved. It doesn't mean he doesn't find you desirable, or that he finds other women more desirable...all it is, is that men are more 'visual'. Women can become romantic just using their imagination, but men aren't always as creative.
If it gets to the point where he's spending a lot of money on it, or charging up credit cards, I'd definitely have an issue with it, but if not...I would maybe just try to tell him how you feel, listen to how he feels, and possibly come to a compromise.
2006-08-15 15:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's cheating...although I do understand your feelings getting hurt...probably because you compair yourself to the women in the porn? Just keep this in mind...those women might look hot..they had to pay for the looks....they might make and do all the right moves...they are getting paid for it...it's all an act!...they probably hate the guy they have to do...the guy probably doesn't like her much either...she probably smells bad!..
You should talk with your husband about this issue you have...see if you can't come to a compromise...my guy used to look at it ALL the time...until I told him, I'd start looking at it as well...when I was all alone..he didn't like that much...now it's a once in awhile thing for him...I don't mind that at all...
.take heart and don't let it bother you...
2006-08-15 15:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this...
Try finding out whats driving him to do this. Men often cannot feel the hurt like you do over an emotional issue as this...to them it is a harmless adventure and fantasy...be happy he's not asking you to loose 50 lbs, wear high heels, do some acrobatic sex act for him then be proper and polite in front of your/his friends. I know it hurts..please let him know your willing to try some nes things with him, but the other woman thing is not only harmful to your relationship but it's just wrong...Honey, is that the kind of man you want to be?
2006-08-15 15:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Beach Life 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define cheating?
If it hurts you, and if he loves you as he should, with you and your happiness the only thing he cared about in the world, he would stop.
No person who loves their partner, would want to make their partner feel badly.
If he's addicted, that's another problem. Tell him each time you catch him it'll cost him $XXX dollars and pick a high enough number to make your point, at least $100 dollars.
2006-08-15 15:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by noname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe he is cheating in a way - hope it stops there. Be sexy yourself and loving - We woman are sexy when we are dating we should keep it up when we are married. I don't care how tired we are from work and taking care of the kids - husbands should never be second. After all the kids grow up and leave you and sometimes don't call for weeks unless they need something. You and your husband are suppose to be forever so treat each other that way.
2006-08-15 15:27:31 · answer #9 · answered by Carol B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating and I know there are lots of opinions out there, but from my point of view...if it hurts your feelings and he knows it, he isn't showing you love and respect if he continues to look at porn online knowing how you feel. A man who loves his wife and respects her, doesn't do things (any things) that hurt her feelings and make her feel bad.
2006-08-15 15:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt he is unless hes gone from home alot and u dont know where he is. Many men and women look at porn, and its usually not a prob. This is only a prob if he doesnt want to have sex with u or looks at it nonstop. If it really bothers u then talk to him about it. I encourage my husband to look at porn when I am not in the mood.
2006-08-15 15:25:55 · answer #11 · answered by misstikal311 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋