my husband wants me to have a threesome. is it a good idea? please answer only if you have experience w/this?

Answer 1

Although we have experienced this, we are not yet married. We are a committed couple in the less than traditional sense. We are a swinging couple who, in addition to inviting another woman, have invited another couple into our bedroom. You ask if it's a good idea- I think so, for a couple where the woman has a curiousity about or attraction to other women. If you're just doing it for your husband, simply to fulfill his fantasy of having two women, I would say no. It will never work if you're getting nothing out of it.

Answer 2

this can be either a very good or very bad thing depending on several factors
1. you and your husband Must sit and talk in great detail about the tings that are and are not acceptable. these rules must be set in stone if there is any question as to weather or not either of you can stick to these rules DON'T DO IT
2. You and your husband MUST have unshakable and steadfast love and trust in the other if you don't have that DON'T DO IT
3. If there has been any infidelity on either part DON'T DO IT going down this road if this is the case is only a open door for affair after affair

Ok now if your still with me at this point and the two of you can answer those 3 questions steadfastly then you could consider having a 3way but take things slow and make sure you have a stop signal that the 2 of you know in case things need to stop

that's what my wife and i did and it has taken our love life and marriage to a whole new level

hope this helps and if you would like to talk further on this subject in a more private setting you are welcome to contact me directly at lonly_male4u on yahoo messenger [e-mail]

Answer 3

That's a question only you can answer. If YOU know that in your heart that it would be wrong and upset you or come in between your relationship in any way, I think the answer should be no. If you can both deal with the thought of bringing a third party into your bedroom and relationship, and if it's something you both are curious and excited about, then go for it. Personally, I wouldn't bring a third party into a Marriage, I know that I am too much of a jealous person. It's all fun and games until someone gets hurt! If you do decide to do this.....make sure that you all use protection!!! You don't want to be on Maury figuring out who the baby's daddy is or get any STD's!!!!

Answer 4

Not a good idea!

Not sure of what gender you are selecting for the third, but in the long run, it's not a good idea.

I felt an emotional roller-coaster ride after the 3-some. What did she think? How good was it? Is she telling the truth? Could she sneak behind my back and do it with someone else? What would I want next or what would she want to try? Was having conventional sex going to be too boring? Will anyone find out? The urge to tell someone else about the 3-some.

It plays on you and can be difficult! Did it feel good and was it visually exciting? Heck yeah! But the priced is paid later, and in my opinion, not worth it!

I'd reconsider or even engage in a non-swapping orgy.

Answer 5

My wife and I have always wanted to try that. We couldn't find a decent willing woman. It has been years in discussion and if we find the right woman, it could still happen. Our marriage has suffered infidelity on both parts already and we seem to be making it work. This was just something we wanted to try for the fun of it. My wife is a little bi curious and has been with a woman before, but not completly. Being that we both had been over the pasture, we are not worried that it could effect us badly. For a couple that still has moral values and are in love, I wouldn't recomend you to do this. It can change everything, just like Mike B said.

Answer 6

It only matters what you think of the idea. If the idea turns you off or frightens you, then no you should not do it. You need to be secure in your relationship before attempting a threesome. Doing it to enhance or strengthen your relationship will not work, it will actually weaken it. Think about it. Its really only up to you.

Answer 7

I haven't had that experience, but my boyfriend she's that changes the relationship. My opinion, if you don't like sharing your things, why would he? Threesomes are just wrong.

Answer 8

If you don't want to do it, then don't do it "for his sake". If it's not something you're into or turned on by, but do it anyway, he'll likely want it to continue, and you'll likely end up resenting him.

I've seen several relationships ruined by this exact thing. If both partners are open to the idea and like it, that's one thing. If one partner is manipulated or guilted or bullied into it, that's something completely different.

Answer 9

Obviously he wants it. But do you? Does the though of having another woman joining you excite and turn you on? Would it create any jealous feelings seeing your man being pleasured by another woman? If even for a second it might then its probably best not to do it.

Answer 10

Its a great idea if you don't like your marriage much. Its a great fantasy but should be left as just that. Common sense will tell you that this is inviting trouble over for dinner!