I dont want to assume but it appears to be exactly that..The thing is, i happen to LOVE MEN what should i do... HELP!
2006-08-15 14:43:43 · 26 answers · asked by sweet_n_mellow23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
when you say lesbian tendencies.. what exactly do u mean? i had a similar problem during high school.. i had one friend who was a very open person.. always hugging and kissing whenever we greeted and sitting close to me and all that stuff... i was having feelings that she might be a lesbian..i even stopped talking to her for a while.. but we made up and i forgot about it.. we got closer to each other.. and being around her made me open up even more to where hugging and kissing your girl friend was totally normal.. i realized that was just how she was and a lot of other girls who are close with their friends. and i became that way as well.. since i used to be very conservative being from nyc and all.. and than moving to new jersey.. im a most more open person now.. so maybe your friend is like that too.. she might not be a lesbian...and even if she was.. that doesnt matter.. it wouldnt how you feel about her.. and if she does have feelings for u.. she will get over the fact that you only want to be with guys.. all in all...dont worry everything will work out.
2006-08-15 14:57:47 · answer #1 · answered by catchme318 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she knows you love men then she shouldn't have expectations of you and her together.This will certainly jeopardize your friendship, make you feel uncomfortable when you are hanging out together. Have a heart to heart with her, let her know what you suspect and let her know that you value her friendship but do not under any circumstances have any intentions of being with anyone else other than a man. Honesty is the only way to go. Lots of luck!
2006-08-15 21:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it clear that you enjoy the company of men, NOT women. But don't make her feel as though what she prefers is wrong.
If she ever takes it too far, it is up to you to straighten her out. if she is starting to creep you out, ask her straight: are you interested in having me as MORE than a friend? Because I'm not into that! I have nothing against you preferring women over men, but you have to respect that I prefer men, NEVER women!
if she gets mad and walks away, better for you (you won't have to deal with the headache anymore).
good luck
2006-08-15 21:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in your position before. sticking to a friendship like that just leads them on and causes you mental stress and such. start straying away like i did. now i see her maybe twice a month, and that is only when she is visiting at my brother's house, but this way they don't hate you and you still get to see them and make sure they are okay. i never told her that when she grabbed my "area" that i knew about her being a bisexual/lesbian person, but i think she has a unspoken understanding that i would rather not spend anymore time with her alone.
2006-08-15 21:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Karen Elaine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about how much you love and like men, just try to make it casual to put her on her guard on how NOT you are a lesbian. And go out with some man when you have to be with her, so she sees that you prefer one date with a man than to be with her. cruel but will work.
2006-08-15 21:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lavender Pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, be nice to her about it. She's your friend, you wuldn't want to hurt her. Treat it as if it's a guy that likes you that you're not interested in. You might even be imagining it. Some girls are just crazy like that.
If she ever brings it up, just tell her clearly but nicely that you don't feel that way about other girls and that you still care about her as a friend.
2006-08-15 21:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend, in a non-confrontational manner, your feelings. And, ask if she has feelings for you other than only friendship. You do want to keep her as a friend...but not as a lover. She will understand.
2006-08-15 21:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kay_Zoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight up, you don't roll that way--you strictly like men--let her know you my best friend but don't come on to me like that because you know how I roll. Let her know you don't want to mess up yall friendship for six years. Just tell her how you feel, if she is your best friend she will understand.
2006-08-15 21:49:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be like, hey (thier name) you know im straight right? and then they'll awnser. and then say "well it doesnt matter to me what your sexuality is, because your a great person and a good friend, i just want you to know that im attracted to men....(and if shes gay/bi) and i hope with our two different sexualities we can still be just as close as ever!" (well ,say something along those lines) good luck!
2006-08-15 21:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to back off and find another lesbian.Tell her you do not want to ruin your friendship but you are not interested.
2006-08-15 21:49:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋