Husbands and wives...answer honestly...does it bother you..?

Question

Does it bother you when your husband sees naked boobs in a movie/when your wife sees a penis in a movie? Be completely honest! Please state whether you are the man or woman. And please answer whether or not you, yourself should be seeing the opposite sex. Isn't marriage about only seeing your spouse in that way?

ok...i am secure..I'm fine with how I look. How can you people say you want your husband to get excited for you by seeing someone else!!??

Answer 1

It's bothers me if it's not for teaching or learning purposes such as for medical care or trying to understand how the human body functions...which it is usually never that way on T.V. or other media...

I am a woman and it surely does bother me that my husband or any man is exposed to it unnecessarily. Men are very visual and once seen it can stay planted in the brain. It can be most tempting for them. And then they have to fight lust or maybe those thoughts at a later time.

God says that even looking at another person for sensual reasons is lust of the eye.

I work in the health profession and have seen men and woman's organs. I keep it in perspective. A body is very sacred and was created to be used in ways that honor God. I care that respect is given to all parts.

I don't want to see someone else's sex organs for pleasure.. They are private and and are intended for just one other person's pleasure - their spouse.

I don't want to sin in some way or have some one else sin by showing and thinking it's no big deal. It can be a problem for many people. Just because nudity or the suggestive clothes entices some, doesn't mean it okay or helpful.

Yes, I believe it is honoring and sacred to keep these parts only for the one we share in that special union with God.

And yes, by the way, I can express myself by saying breasts and penis, testicles, etc.

I am sure there are plenty of people who will disagree with me. But I'm not in the majority for sure.

It's in the media plenty. They show nudity because they know it will encourage more viewers thus more money for their sponsors. I believe the sponsors and the people who air these shows or spread it in other media don't really care how it's received. People can become desensitized or hurt or cause pain to others when they see too much or/and too often.


Another example of desensitizing...
How often do they talk about someone being killed or murdered on the news...and the viewer just yawns or goes to bed and fallls fast asleep. It's not affecting them personally so it doesn't seem real or of any big consequence.

Answer 2

I'm the husband. It doesn't bother me a bit. If all marriage were was an exclusive peep show then what a sorry state we would be in. My wife and I both realize that part of what attracted us to each other was our interest in the opposite sex. She doesn't expect me not to notice pretty, sexy women and I don't expect her not to recognize a handsome, sexy man. What we don't expect is that we'll be bringing them home to bed.

On the whole, I think Americans are too hung up on nudity. This left over from the Puritan era could slip away in the night and I think we'd all be better off. Europeans have a ,much better attitude toward nudity as a whole and it spares them the prurient crap that accompanies nudity in the US.

Dressed or undressed, I know a great figure on a woman when I see it. Don't for a minute think that clothes on or off makes that great a difference in my noticing.

Believe me, when everyone's doing it nobody much cares.

To finish up, marriage is a working partnership. It entails alot more that just sleeping with someone. Anyone who boils their marriage down to that without considering all the other aspect of companionship, common interests, parenting, building a future together, etc. is in a sorry state.

Answer 3

I am a man that is happily married I think it is normal to be attracted to the other sex if your husband or wife is not you have other problems. Being married does not mean your blind or dead.Doing something and just seeing something on TV is to different things.Because first of all you are still two individual not the same.Always remember this your reality isn't his or hers even if you are married. You stand a chance of running your partner away.Your mate had a whole life before you he is not you and you are not him.But if you look do it with respect and no if you are the only person your mate will ever see naked how sad.

Answer 4

OK I'm a man so I'm going to get slammed on this but no on both, if your secure with who you are then seeing someone else should make no difference. I have been married for 10 years now and my wife looks at men all the time and me vise verse, ITS NORMAL and HEALTHY, the difference is making that choice to act upon it! that's what marriage is about! FAITHFULNESS. I'm glad she still looks, she's married not dead and to be honest if i was the only man that she thought was good looking I would be a little freaked out, CAN YOU SAY STALKER!

Answer 5

It would have when I was younger and more insecure. Not any more - I know my marriage won't be affected in any way by my husband seeing naked breasts (he wouldn't even like the ones in most movies anyway, and he prefers clothes on).

My rule is: it's okay to look, not to touch. And that goes for me too!

Answer 6

who would this person be going home with? wouldn't it be the spouse? get real, it's human nature to check out the opposite sex. Infidelity is a whole different topic. Just because someone sees the opposite sex naked does it mean that bam! they had sex with that person? No.

Answer 7

I'm a wife, and it does not bother me if my husband sees another woman naked. I mean, he's mine, and if it's a movie what am I going to do? cover his eyes? I'm not 12! He's a grown person. I don't care, as long as he loves me and doesn't make love to another woman, I am not insecure about it

Answer 8

Just like the lyrics from an old song. "You can look but you better not touch, poison ivy".

I'm the male end of the relationship. I don't think my wife likes me to see a woman at all, let alone naked. She is a bit of a prude.

Answer 9

It does make me uncomfortable. I don't even like Victoria Secret commercials. I know it is because I hate my body. If I were super hot, I would not be concerned about what my husband sees.
I do not worry about him being unfaithful. I just hate the shape of my body, that's all.

I understand what you are saying, but that's just one of those facts of life that I learned to accept a few years ago. Men think about sex 60 cajillion times a day and you can bet your sweet attitude that you are not in every episode, not even close. It's just another one of those crappy life sux things that we all have to eat.

Answer 10

I'm a woman - married 10 years. It doesn't bother me a bit what he sees on tv or in a movie...but it's pretty unfair that there are a lot more boobs flashed than penises!