Someone please tell me what to do?

Question

my 8 month old daughter is spoiled really bad and is always crying for me to hold her. i was told to just let her cry it out but if i do that she will just keep crying non stop until she gets her way and her face gets really red and i am afraid she will lose her breath. what to do, what to do

Answer 1

She's not spoiled at 8 months.

Pick her up and cuddle her until she settles down. Then put her on the floor with a toy. If she starts pouting, show her how to play with the toy. At that age, my girls loved looking in the mirror. A little baby mirror on the floor would be fun for her. When she engages with the toy, step back, but don't leave the room. Let her see you.

Eventually, she will be confident enough to not go crazy when she's not in your arms. At this small, though, she's still so reliant on you to help her. There's not a lot she can do. If you want her to entertain herself, you need to show her how.

Answer 2

I am a mother, does your daughter spend time with the father or grandparents? She's not crying because she is spoiled, she only eight months old they can be very insecure. It's something else does she go to day care or do someone watch her for you? She feels more secure with you holding her that natural and all children are different. I don't suggest to let her cry but to maybe play with her more on the floor you sit on the floor and let her sit next to you. Go for a walk in the near the house or park put her in a stroller or wagon. Show her the plants and animals, the other kids. Does she have a walker in the house put her in it. If you can let a grandparent spend as much time with her as you can. If not do you have a close friend or little sister who with play with her. If you have a good neighbor with a toddler that will come over to let the toddler play for an hour or two and play with the baby get some fun things for them to touch or make noise like toy drums and key boards, toy cells and soft balls that jingle. Get two of each because toddlers get posessive about toys. This will tire her down for a nap. But it is nothing wrong with her wanting to be held some....you carried her nine months. Just start to teach her to be indepent more. Notice if the she cries is a certain time of day or evening. Give her a warm bath let her play and you watch her, let her get tired, then her bottle and she will go to sleep and then put her down. Get a routine of daily things you do. Stick to them and she will get more indepent. It will not last much longer everything in life is temporary. Pray for strength and patience....they are little for only a little while! Each month babies learn to do something different remember that it will change. It will not be long be patient!

Answer 3

At night, it's ok to let her cry a little. Have you ever heard of the Ferber Method? It has worked really well for me. Also the book, "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" has helped a lot of moms I know. During the day, try not to rock her to sleep. If she wants to be held while she's awake, carry her in a Baby Bjorn type carrier. The more secure she feels, the less likely she'll be to cry. You really just have to find what works best for you so keep asking around and doing research online.

Answer 4

The thing that I learned in my first aid training and all of that is that when a child tries to hold his/her breath.... don't be worried... they will either realize to stop... or pass out and begin breathing the second that they do... I know this may sound scary, but its true. But let her cry... it will teach her that she can't always get her way

Answer 5

Hi

8 months old is okay to be spoiled. Come on, they are cute and they know they are and everyone loves them, what do you expect.
If she cries for you to pick her up then she needs more attention. Generally.
She simply lacks attention from people she loves and likes. Play more with her, try to distract her with something (showing my cosmetics and face cream jars to my baby always worked for us).

You know, someone very smart said long time ago "Spoil and love your children as much as you can because you never know what kind of life they will have when they grow up"

Answer 6

Children are quickly bored with the same old stuff. If you are a stay home, it could be that she is get bored with the same routine. Try taking her to a different place (if not every day, every other day). This will give her a reason to want to ride in a stroller or get down and explore.

Answer 7

As a mother of 2, grandmother of 5, let her cry once she realizes that you will not pick her up she will stop having those fits - it will take a while for her to learn that crying does not help - she will quit - but it will take awhile!@

Answer 8

Let her cry it out. Most likely she'll be fine but if she does lose her breath you need to call her doctor.

Answer 9

If you pick a baby up when it is crying, it isn't spoiling it. If you don't, it is neglecting.

Answer 10

i say little her cry, it'll teach her that she wont always get her way! hang in there it might not work the first time but after awhile she'll get the piont.