Yes, I cheated on my wife. I made a mistake. She hasn't talked to me in a month and I'm afraid she never will. I sent her a letter of apology and in the letter I told her all the feelings I have for her - the truth this time - everything she has wanted to hear from me from the day we met. She sent it back unopened..why? How do I get her to open it?
2006-08-15 14:22:24 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Everything she has wanted to hear from me since the day we met"... but that you didn't tell her.
Maybe the problem is that now, she doesn't believe you.
Try dispensing with the letters and talking with her in person. And if she thinks that after all this that your relationship just isn't worth the trouble, respect her decision.
2006-08-15 14:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by AmericanDreamer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say that she has given up hope and love on you.. But that doesn't mean that you will never able to make up with her. Make some efforts and be more sincerity of your reconcile actings.
If she doesn't want to read your letter, send her sms. If still doesn't work, I suggest you dedicate a short message via radio or media newspaper saying you are truly sorry for your mistakes and assure her this will not be repeated again. Tell her you love her very much and would not able to lose her..
If she has determined her decision not to forgive you, there is nothing you can do except that you got to be patience and leave her alone for a some time. During the cold period, do your duties as husband like helping her some house chores, buying breakfast for her, or you could even buy for her favourite stuffs... All the little things that you did for her would eventually melt her heart and she will be forgive you then..
2006-08-15 14:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the hurt is too much for her to deal with right now. Give her some space for now. This isn't something you can get over in a day. Maybe your marriage will never survive this but what I will tell you is that it will take alot of work to forgive and trust. You may want to suggest a counselor or therapist if its worth it to you both. I wish you both luck
2006-08-15 14:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have thought about this before you cheated. Regret is always felt in the end. Unfortunately, you cannot force her to respect you, forgive you or trust you. It will take her time. Give her some space in order to let her anger fizzle out a bit. All you can do is clean up your act and be patient.
2006-08-15 14:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to get her to open it. She is too angry with you right now. She hasn't forgiven you and she doesn't want to hear anything you have to say, cause she won't believe anything you have to say. You made a mistake, a huge mistake. It will take months before she will even think of talking to you again. Sorry, but I have to be honest.
2006-08-15 15:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may never open it. You have to talk to her face to face and since her trust in your is to say the least shattered she may never speak to you again. You need to give her some time and try talking to her. If she loves you and wants to be with you she'll give you the chance to explain or she may not. Ride it out man and if you do get the second chance I suggest you not dork it up again. Good luck, I wish you both the best!
2006-08-15 14:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by nikonjedi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may still be hurt with what you did and not opening your mail only means that she´s still mad and she still needs time to heal. You ruined her trust in you that´s why. Give her more time to think alone, then if you feel that you´ve given her enough time she needed go to her and talk to her personally. Bring a bouquet of flowers with you and make your time with her worth the talk.
2006-08-15 14:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by gorgeous_gaiL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just give her time. She probably still very hurt by what you did. I would a couple of weeks and them go over and give her the letter in person. But don't push anything. She needs time to trust you again.
2006-08-15 14:36:14 · answer #8 · answered by mouse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really screwed up and unfortunatly it may be too late to tell her all those things...and have her believe them. How can she believe all those things when you cheated on her? All you can do right now is give her the space and time she needs to clear her head. When and if she becomes ready to talk, make yourself available. My best to you.
2006-08-15 14:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why cheat when you know the consequences. Go to home with a bouquet of flowers together with the letter. APOLOGIZE AGAIN. Give to her the letter and ask her to read it. Apologize again and PROMISE, PROMISE NEVER BREAK YOUR PROMISE.
2006-08-15 14:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋