How do i defend myself from a bad job review. I feel i was being used as an escape goat by another employer.?

Question

I am a first time director and the staff knows this and some of the times it seems like some are looking for something to go wrong. Especially the last person we hired. She is constantly making excuses for her work not being completed. After asking her numerous times and still not getting the work. I sometimes get frustrated and say "I need the paper work right now!" She says something in this regard "Why?" So I snap back with "because I'm in charge" You have to understand this person pushes all the right buttons and I have told my supervisor this many times but it seems to fall in deaf ears. When I went for my first review after 8 months at this job I was shocked & hurt I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I never imagine such a bad review. I did everything that was expected of me plus more. Why did they wait so long. My review read: I use power and control to show that i am boss. And that I spend to much time focusing on others' weaknesses instead of what they are doing well.

Answer 1

Its "Scapegoat" not "Escape Goat"

Answer 2

Okay, let's look at the situation a bit differently. You met this guy and he seemed nice and the two of you did pretty well together. Then you had sex. Up to this point, everything was fine. But look at his reaction. He immediately leaves, giving no reason, has no discussion, mentions no problems, just leaves. So what kind of man would do this? Certainly not a man who had felt you were something special, not a man who looked at you as a wonderful woman, not a man who wanted some kind of relationship with you and not a man with any common sense. And his answers to the repeated questions of "why leave" are unacceptable and indicate a lack of sympathy, lack of understanding and lack of sensitivity. So the bottom line is, you have escaped from what would have proven to be a lousy relationship. You learned early on that this guy was a real jerk. You had a learning experience which has taught you something. And, incidentally, you might have had some good sex. But you came out ahead. Suppose, for example, he hadn't revealed his true character until a month or so later after you had invested more emotional coin in the relationship? You should thank him for giving you the learning experience and for allowing you to be free from what would have been a very messy relationship. As for how you choose to feel, you should feel grateful to him for having shown what kind of guy he really was. Don't bother writing him a thank-you note, just chalk it up to experience and remember the signs and don't hook up with someone who shows those same symptoms. Be thankful. And recognize that you are perfect just as you are...and he didn't see that. So he's dumb as well.

Answer 3

Well, the review does indicate where you can improve. First of all are you female. Females have sometimes a very harsh way of telling those that they feel they have control over how do to things. It doesnt go over well with the other employees and quite frankly it will create dis-respect for you instead of respect. Even if you have cause, the others will side with the under dog, just because they disapprove of your behavior as their superior.

Now if you are male or female, this review would tell me that you need to do this:.....using your power and control to that you are boss is not how to get things done nor to instill a work ethic you feel might be lacking. You must first and foremost show by example. Instead of telling and show them, work side by side, and even though someone does something wrong, "point it out" in a polite way, with at the same time acknowledging how very good they do other things, or how well quick they learn and that you know they can accomplish what is required of them. Let them understand through communciation from your directly why something needs to be turned in on time and express your desire to help them where ever they are in need of help, not doing the work for them, but pitching in and showing the way, and willingness to be one of the team, not to set yourself apart from them.

Then, be sure to recognize their hard efforts, even when that effort is lacking, you can express in so many ways how it can be improved....without coming over as a know it all, a I the boss you the low life employee. Ask them what they may see to improve and then listen and actually use some one ideas and then....you along with your group, jump in and get the job done.

It hard, being the director...its a balancing act. Good luck, you sound like you really want to do your best. You will; I know it, you will adjust your behavior and find that you not only will get a better review next time but your relationship with the crew will grow.

Answer 4

I won't even attempt to evaluate your past performance, but I will give you some advice.

RUN, and I do mean RUN, to the nearest bookstore or library, get a copy of The One Minute Manager. Read it, study it, use it, apply it, live it, be it.

This book quickly and easily explains an effective method of management that allows you to focus on the positive sides of things. You need to be settings employee guidelines and goals in WRITING, signed by the employee to make sure everyone is on the same page. Then your job is to catch the employee doing things right, and praise them. When the employee is not performing up to the standards that you've agreed upon, do a very brief private meeting to criticize their performance, not them, and to setup the new guidelines, and to provide guidance to get them back on track.

All goals you set for you employees must be measurable, and the reviews done often, so you are both on the same page, and continuing the progress of achievement.

Your primary function is to improve the capabilities of your employees, and to increase the profitiability and success of your company. (And of course to accomplish the goals set by your supervisors)

The book The One Minute Manager will give you more ideas, and an easy to implement plan of management, that will increase you success as a manager/directore, GREATLY!

Good Luck, and may you be the greatest One Minute Manager in your part of the world.

P.S. One other suggestion, ask your supervisor if you can have a monthly meeting with him to review your goals, and to evaluate and plan. That you wish to learn from him.

Answer 5

It's hard to give advice, not knowing the environment and the players:

I'll try. This appears to be a small outfit. Is this a nonprofit that sometimes hire their clients? If so, then the focus for a staff director might be in-service training and that takes patience -- you are a team-leader. When you do this, generally you start with the strengths and build on that.

You are new too. Keep trying. Good luck.

Answer 6

Don't give up, sometimes things just are not meant to be. Try again with a different company.

Answer 7

how did the employee use you to escape did he ride on your back home after a late lunch?