I have been married to the same man for 12 years. The last month or so my sex drive has gone through the roof. My question is, yesterday in the afternoon we made love and it was fantastic but because it was so good it left me wanting more. After we got our children to bed later that night I got into bed with my husband and tried to entice him into making love again, but he instead went to sleep. How often do men want sex? Serious answers only please.
2006-08-15 14:14:48 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey you can't always be on the same page sexually just like with any other part of the relationship. you probably just wore the lucky guy out! also women's sex drives tend to kick in later in life so im guessing this is going on with you. keep the communication going and try not to take his sleeping personally. it could also be hes tired from work and doing the dad thing. a killer sex life on all that would wear out any guy. more power to you both and good luck! sounds like a great marriage. we should all be so lucky.
peace!
Vin
PS: try yoga and meditation to take the extra edge off.
2006-08-15 14:28:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married for 12 years ,you should be knowing your man by now. in 20s they can do it 5 to 6 times a day.In 30s they can 2 to 4 times a day in 40s once a day or thrice a week in 50s once in every week in 60s 1 or 2 times in a month all of the above is only possible if they are hyper active in with (SEX) in mind-Body and physically fit. One thing you should have in mind that men can only make love if they are excited and interested in it.when they are not interested they will not have the erection and hence would not like to let his wife know that he is not in a position to make it grow stiff to satisfy you. But in woman case there is no such thing as growing stiff and they can just lay back and accept their man even if they are not in the mood of making love ,apart from this he needs only a minute ot so to finish his job , but where as in women they do require a lot of fore play and only later do they get to reach the climax, what you have asked is not much ,that is a very good and healthy sign , you did enjoy your afternoon session and want to do so in the night too but you see age also counts.He must have been physically tired of the hard days work to accept your request I hope this answers your question ,and wishing you luck next time.to have it your way time and again.
2006-08-15 14:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by shivaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really is no such thing. It is personal choice. What you like is not always the same as your partners, so you may have to compromise. Try talking to your husband about this and if there really is no way around it, ask him if he doesn't mind if you get a few toys for yourself to satisfy you when he is not in the mood. The idea alone might entice your husband and it also might add some spice into your lovemaking.
2006-08-15 14:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you both enjoy it, there isn't "too much". But for married people, I think more than once a day is phenomenal! Most married couples supposedly have sex only a few times a month, so don't feel bad that you didn't get it twice in one day. Kids are exhausting, and sometimes I would rather sleep too.
2006-08-15 14:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by advicemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the man's point of view:
My wife is sometimes in the same situation as you are in now. It varies from man to man and during his lifetime. If he doesn't already, encourage him to exercise. That will increase his sex drive. Also, don't be afraid to talk with him. Remember to talk with him during a time that does not involve sex. He needs to have his wits about him. When you do share your needs with him be respectful and loving and patient. Plan your sex life or things will get in the way. If he knows ahead of time, he can rest up or otherwise prepare. Sometimes men are dense. You need to be certain that you have communicated with him. Make sure that he hears AND understands you. It takes effort, but I am sure you will find it worthwhile. Also be considerate of stresses in his life. If he is worrying about something, that WILL hinder his sex drive and stamina. He needs to communicate with you as much as you do with him.
2006-08-15 14:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sex is a very good way to show love...ive known to have sex 3 times a day but im only 18...i dont know how old u guys are but i know that he means well and once a day is fine...maybe try somthin new in the sex that might want him to do it again on the same day...something along those lines! sorry if it wasnt helpful!
2006-08-15 14:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by chris b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on the man. Some men have really high sex drives they can have sex 3or 4 times a day.Some can have sex once and be cool for days without doing it. It really depends on the man they are all different.
2006-08-15 14:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how wonderful you are so powerfully turned on by ..... YOUR OWN HUSBAND!!!! yeah yeah yeah!!!!
and I agree the older we get the less vigor we have.
and many times men are concerned about not being able to match the previous session @ the same intensity.
You know we women can keep on keepin on!!!!!
I read that early am sex is good for guys becasue of that first thing in the morning salute to the day.....
2006-08-15 14:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 30, I want sex as much as I can get it.. That's atleast 4-6 times a day.. I wear her out daily.. My partner and I live together and we work close to eachother.. She is 23... Hope this helps..
2006-08-15 14:26:52 · answer #9 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We want it as much as possible. However, it becomes less of a priority if it happened recently. Depending on the guy, he might not be able to go again for several hours. If we try again too soon it hurts.
2006-08-15 14:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by swingaway1021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋