What should I do when I dont know what to do about keeping the baby?

Question

I don't know what to do, I just found out yesterday and I dont know if I want to keep it or not.

Answer 1

Honey before you consider something drastic like abortion, please consider what I'm about to say seriously please.
Your baby, from the moment of conception is an individual- different from everyone else, including you or it's father and has a independant existence of his own. This new life has a unique identity, because at the moment of conception he was given his hereditary code, the genetic map which blueprints his development and determines what he/she will be. All this new life asks you, honey is for you to sustain him, ( give him food and protection). This new life after three weeks of pregnancy is about one-tenth of an inch long and has the beginnings of his eyes, lungs, stomach, liver, kidneys, intestines, spinal cord and a heart. His little heart is beating, sending blood supply that is completely independant of it's you through his tiny body. Brain waves can be detected at the sixth week.
By the time that you became aware that you were pregnant, your baby's skeleton was complete and quite capable to move his limbs. Two months down the road your baby will be able to make a little fist. By the third month his entire little body is formed and his organs are all functioning. Your little life is able to breathe, swallow, sleep, and suck his little thumb and recoil in pain. The remaining six months he will spend growing and gaining strength for the birth.
Seriously consider not going the abortion route, and besides your little unborn child is created in God's image, even while still in your womb. Please recognize the sacredness of the child you are carrying.
Right about now you need encouragement and support and I suggest for you to find a local church or pregnancy crisis center for counseling. You don't need to do this alone. God Bless.

Answer 2

Firstly, it doesn't matter how old you are (14 or 40), because if you are old enough to have a baby, then you are at an age of responsibility.

Have a talk with the father, let him know how you feel about this, and don't stress him out. Be confident that you can take care of this child. Millions (if not Billions) of people have had kids at a young age and have had to face the responsibility of parenting.

I am a father (24) and I have really enjoyed the challenge. If you are working or studying when the child comes, get support from friends and family. There is nothing that you can't do if you put your mind to it, and raising children is one of the greatest things that a person can do.

I think if you are leaning toward abortion or adoption, you may regret the decision later on in life, so think seriously about what you want to do. In the end, the decision is up to you and the father, and if he is behind you, you are doing a lot better than most other people.

I hope you enjoy parenthood.

Answer 3

First I'd ask how far along you are? Take some time to get used to the idea of this life growing inside you. I was scared with my first. Heck...I'm 5 weeks now and scared with my 6th!! But I'm high risk. But I digress...find a local place where you can talk to someone about this. Really, there is no need to make a decision right now. Well, unless you are 39 weeks along and just found out! :-) But in reality, I doubt you are that far, so there is plenty of time to relax, feel the child move in you, fall in love, and decide later. Otherwise, adoption is a wonderful option. I'm wanting to have a daughter, though have no clue yet. I know I would love to adopt a child, especially a girl, and there are other women out there too. Give it a chacne for a while, and talk with someone about it. Just think really hard about keeping this baby or allowing someone to adopt. Please don't choose to terminate.

Answer 4

Sweetie this is something that you and maybe someone you really trust,should discuss. It would be a shame if you make the wrong decision either way. Make a list of what you could offer the baby and make another list of what you will not be able to do with your baby. I will tell you a true story, my daughter when she was 16yrs old became pregnant. As I did every afternoon after work I would sit with my 16 year old and my boy 9 at that time and discuss what we all did that day. It just so happened that I had visited a "medium" that day. I told the kids that she had told me a baby was coming to my house. I told the "medium" that was crazy..as I was telling the kids this, my daughter got up and went to her room .she close the door, I ran after her, and this was the day she sd she was pregnant. to make a very long story short I kept and adopted her baby girl. my husband did not speak to her all through pregnancy. After he saw the baby he became excited. Now my grandauther/daughter is 12 years old. Do me a favor talk to your parents or guardian they might be more understanding than you think. I will pray that you make the right decision. God be with you. By telling you this I am not trying to influence you in any way. This has to be your decision. OK?

Answer 5

First and foremost, talk to the boy who is the father. See how he feels as he is half responsible. If that is out of the question (maybe he's big jerk or something) talk to your most trusted advisor. (friend, councelor, clergy, teacher, etc.) Consider giving the baby up for adoption. Think long and hard about what you are doing. I would respect your decision if you chose to terminate the tiny life that is growing inside of you. Talk to at least one woman who has had an abortion before you do. I have 2 children and I can't imagine having aborted either one of them.

Answer 6

This is a tough decision - just remember your baby has family - I lost a grandson that was given up for adoption. I think of him every day. I wish I would have had a choice in the Mothers decision. He has no idea how much family he has that would have loved him - and do love him. Why else do most adoptees search for their roots. Family is so important. If you must give your baby up please check with the grandparents and aunts and uncles first. I miss this grandson - I do know he has a good family but the loss is still there. I wonder if adoptee parents ever think about the extended familys loss as well. In this case the parents that adoped my grandson have been in contact with me through their lawyer and intend to give their son a scrapebook with his bioligic family and let him know about us. I think they are good people and my grandson has had alot of love. I still miss him.

Answer 7

It's kind of early to be making a decision. If you only found out yesterday, then you are still very emotional. Give yourself time to learn about and weigh your options. Give yourself time to think. Though you should not wait until the baby is born to make a decision, it does not have to be made tomorrow.

Answer 8

I agree with God wont give you something you can't handle ! and also someone else said this> Go to a pregnancy crisis center and talk to a counselor. Whatever you do, DON'T abort the baby; there are tons of people out there dying to adopt, love, and care for a newborn. Choose to give life to your baby, above all else. Then consider whether you can properly commit to a lifelong duty of caring for this baby. If you can't, PLEASE put your baby up for adoption. You will be a real hero in this little one's life if you secure him/her the happiness and security he/her deserves, as does every baby born into this world

Answer 9

you're inquiring about whether or not you should go through with an abortion, right?

How far along are you?

if you are contemplating on what to do, don't wait to long about having an abortion. You don't want this baby to form and become someone you will have a hard time parting with.

How old are you?

I sort of agree with what another person said: God would not give you anything that you couldn't handle.

but it is ultimately up to you...remember though, you are going to remember what you did for the rest of your life if you DO decide to go through with terminating this life. I know because I had a friend who aborted her baby, and always remembers that babies death anniversary. You will always have that in your sub-conscious.

God bless you and I hope that you make the right decion for yourself.

Answer 10

Go to a pregnancy crisis center and talk to a counselor. Whatever you do, DON'T abort the baby; there are tons of people out there dying to adopt, love, and care for a newborn. Choose to give life to your baby, above all else. Then consider whether you can properly commit to a lifelong duty of caring for this baby. If you can't, PLEASE put your baby up for adoption. You will be a real hero in this little one's life if you secure him/her the happiness and security he/her deserves, as does every baby born into this world. God bless you!