I am 25 and newly divorced. I recently started dating this guy about a month ago. He used to come over and stay the night with me, but we never did anything sexually. We would just cuddle and sleep. This happened about 5 times, until last weekend, when we went out, got drunk and had sex. He told me he liked it and has made several sexual comments toward me. Well, last night he came over to watch movies. We watched the movie and when the movie was over he said he was tired and wanted to go to bed. I was thinking he wanted to mess around again and started kissing on him and rubbing his stomach. He basically informed me he was tired and rolled me over and started cuddling me again. He is acting like he was before we had sex. This is so confusing to me!!! In past relationships when I had sex with someone, in the beginning, we did it all the time. Why is he acting this way??? Do u think its so he doesn't get close to me????
2006-08-15 13:55:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
Well he did say he wanted to go to bed. Sometimes when a guys says he's tired and wants to go to bed, he really means he just wants to go to bed. Forget the stereotype that all guys want to do is have sex everytime you're in bed with them. There is such a thing as sleeping with ya lady friend and just sleeping, even cuddling. I think he respects you and has an affectionate side to him. Did he mess around with you during the movie? I would have figured he would have been messing with you during the movie to get you into it, then say he wanted to go to bed, and then initiate sex from there. But I wouldn't worry about it too much. You could just come out and ask him what you are to him, since you've already had sex with him once already. But remember you both were drunk. So go ahead and ask him straight up whats goin on in his head.
2006-08-15 14:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by styymy_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, ask yourself what you are looking for. 90% of the women complain that there man wants sex all the time. the women love to be cuddled and touched but not necessarily want to have sex all the time. You have found a man that is most womens dream and you are asking what is wrong with him?
Maybe this guy works hard everyday. Does he have a job? I think he must as he is very tired. There may not be something wrong with him but maybe your two are not compatible with each other sexual drives. Then again there maybe something wrong with him if he can only have sex when he is drunk.
There is one sure way to find out. ASK him, Talk to him about your desires and his desires. These things don't seem to be to hard to understand, if more people talked more about their desires then it would be a happier world, once they understood each other.
Good luck
2006-08-15 21:08:31 · answer #2 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear,i would say how lucky u r .the man who dating u is the sort that most of the weman want .remember this,not all the man is a sex doing machine,why don't u thing that he just kiss u or cuddling u when sleeping is so romantic!?i think he really respected u and love u in the soul.not as simple as the love u r thinking about.maybe because u r newly divorced,u haven't recovery from the old pain.but u should trust that he do love u and this is the kind that he expressed it ,in my own private opinion,the woman who can be in love with this sort of man is so luckily!try and GOOD LUCK!;)
2006-08-15 21:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could have rethought a little bit about having sex. try talking to him. after a movie or something (not when drunk) talk to him. his drunk factor the other night could have something to do with him having sex. he might be embarrassed too about having sex without talking. just make sure you talk to him about whatever is comfortable and what you feel needs to be said.
2006-08-15 21:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by K.I.S.S. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe his last partner was a nymph and hes just happy to hold you without pressure get him drunk again
2006-08-15 21:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mosez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is that answer He got what he wanted and now its time for bed or maybe just wanted to hit and nevermore
2006-08-15 21:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you could get a bunch of answers on this, but they only way to know is to ask the man.
2006-08-15 21:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by Tina K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that he enjoys your company and doesn't want you just for sex.
2006-08-15 21:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks that you think that he thinks that he only wants sex. You think that he thinks that you think that he does not always want sex. I think that he thinks that he always wants sex. I think that you think that he thinks that he does not always want sex.
2006-08-15 21:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just really tired.
2006-08-15 21:01:14 · answer #10 · answered by scott m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋