Medicate myself or no?

Question

1. I'm 27 and haven't had a girlfriend in years.
2. I can't seem to get a date.
3. Some of my friends flake on me and don't think I'm good enough to hang out with them.
4. My friends say things to try and make me feel inadequate.
5. My friends blatantly lie to me and try to manipulate me for their own benefit.
6. I went to a great private college, but work a low paying public interest job.
7. I hate myself every night for not doing anything to get my dream job.
8. I don't have a close relationship with my parents.
9 My parents spend irresponsibly and have to borrow from me.
10. My friends make twice as much as me.
11. My friends got lucky financially and are sitting on treasure chests.
12. Girls don't seem to enjoy talking to me, probably because I look so uncomfortable.
13. I want to be more social like some peers, but I get ridiculed for my failed efforts at this age.

Answer 1

1. lose your "friends" (and stop comparing yourself to them)
2. tell your parents to F*** off and make their own money
3. try internet 'dating' to 'meet' a girl who shares your interests before getting together in person


no need for medication at this point

just get rid of those negative people surrounding you, dude.

Answer 2

You need some instruction in self esteem. Try Toastmasters or some sort of hobby club that will have people with a same interest. That would definitley give you something to talk about and improve the social skills you seem to lack. I'm not trying to be mean,only honest. All those people can't be wrong,can they?
You also need to dump those "friends". Real friends do not treat you badly and make you feel inadequete. However,maybe they are trying to help you see what they see. Listen to what has been said about you by your friends then take a long hard look. Is it possible that there is some truth to what they say?
Do not waste the next years waiting for something you want. Find positive ways to better yourself and you just might find a domino effect will occur. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

If your friends flake on you, do not think you are good enough, and try to make you feel inadequate I think it is time you make new friends. Before you can do that you need to learn to think more positively, I know easier said than done. Therapy can be expensive so what I would suggest outside therapy is start a log book. Think of one thing you like about yourself and write it down. Next think of something you would like to improve and write that down. Third, look at both items and think how you can use the positive statement to help improve the negative. Stick with it, it might take a few days, even a week or better, nothing happens over night. Each day write in the log explaining how you feel about your goal: did you make any head way, if you did what it was, and so on. Once you have accomplished it start on another. When you start feeling better about yourself you can start working on your initial career choice, the one that you went to college for. Of course when you have built up your self-esteem you may even reconsider that and head towards a totally different goal. As for your parents, I hate to say this, but they are grown and can take care of themselves. Do not worry how much money your "friends" have or make, that is their business, not yours. Another thing, talk to your friends before you do anything, you might just be reading into things they say due to your own insecurities, if you clear the air and tell them how you feel they might even be able to help you.

Answer 4

1. get out and start dating again - if you dont ask girls out you'll never meet one thats right for you
2.negitive attitude - you can get a date JUST ASK
3. those friends are ar*seholes - *** em off
4. same as question 3
5. same as questions 3 and 4
6. any job is a good job - just because you had the money to go to an expensive school doesnt mean you'll be a doctor or lawyer
7. be proactive write a list of what you want and how youre going to get it - and stick to it - keep positive
8. youre an adult - you dont need a close relationship with your parents and this is a bonus for your future wife "inlaws are ar*eholes"
9 let them suffer, youre the priority not them
10. who cares - let them, it doesnt affect who you are
11. getting lucky financially leaves you with no journey to sit and remember when youre looking at where you are now and how you got there on your own
12. the girls youve been talking to are like this - theres plenty more girls out there and we are not "one size fits all" we like different personalities
13. if being more social is whats going to make you happier then get out there and do things you enjoy and be involved with the people who enjoy the same ( and remember Q3 - those mates are sh*te, get new friends)

Answer 5

1. you don't need a girlfriend to have a great life, and 27 is still very young compared to say 60. you still have many years to accomplish the things you want.
2. not the end of the world. go out and have fun doing what you love instead. enjoy life and maybe someone will notice you.
3. they're not your friends.
4. they're not your friends.
5. they're not your friends.
6. what we learn in college is practically useless to use in the working world. college is more there to teach you HOW to learn, that and getting a degree.
7. so while working at that crap job strive to get a better job. actively seek out the job that you really want instead of complaning about it.
8. everyone is different. we can't all connect to people that easily. spend more time with them.
9 maybe that's one of the problems that you're not close to them. you resent them a bit for having to rely on you. try to figure and talk things out with your parents. tell them not to spend so much. but we as children do have a responsibility to give something back to them, since they did take care of us for 18+ years.
10. don't compare yourself to them. just try to make yourself happy. and if they brag about all the money they have and you've told them to stop, they're not your friends
11. are they happy about it? you don't really know. maybe their life is a messed up piece of **** and they're sitting on that with their treasure chests. it will still smell.
12. go to places that make you comfortable. enjoy life. maybe then you won't look so uncomfortable.
13. ridiculed from who? oh my god are we in highschool still? if people do make fun of others who want to have fun and be social, they're just pathetic.

Answer 6

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Leave out all the self pity bull. What's worse than a crybaby? A typing crybaby. I'm not trying to be cruel, but I have known people in way worse shoes than you claim to be. Quit the jealousy of your "friends" and what kind of idiots do you hang out with?

What you need is exercise, fresh air, and a sense of self worth. Confidence overcomes uncomfortable social interaction.

Answer 7

Real friends accept you as you are and don't use you.
You need to find someone who needs a friend and be one to them. Be interested in their life and encourage them to talk about themselves.
You give out of your needs and your needs will be met.
When I was lonely I went to the nursing home and encouraged the people who had no way out of their situations.
Join a Spirit filled church and let Jesus Christ become your best friend. He will never leave you, nor forsake you.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I think you need to dump your friends and find some that are nicer to you. This and working on building your confidence will help your self-esteem, which in turn will do wonders for your love life.

Answer 10

medication will only make the matter worse. You need to realize that you are part of the Great What Is. the world of things. You are one of them. You Matter. You are Important in the Big Picture as well as in your created world of the here Now.