Thnx for your response. My bf has asked me to change myself for my betterment.Some times he gets angry and ask me to leave.We both know that he is short temper.Even he says, what if I don’t change, he will never say yes. Is it something he is scaring me so that I will change?He is possessive which makes me happy.If I go out/talk with other guy,he gets angry.Does he feel insecure?All I want is to be with him,I dont know how to handle hin when gets angry.I am under tremendous pressurefrom my family and so I am talking to other proposals.Which make me feel like dead.I hate it.I feel like am I a bad girl.When I talk to my parents, they mentally bias me which make to talk other proposals.I don’t know if I am doing any mistakes.I love my bf and want to be with him and be honest.But from his side, verbally I have never got any commitment, neither he says I love u.Will he feel bad if I leave him.He wants me to meet him regularly.I luv him & I could go to any extend for him.plz tell wht z right
2006-08-15 13:38:18 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree that he is a controlling person. Why would he want you to change? Why does he think it is bad just because you talk to other people even if they are guys? I am not sure what other proposals are...but if you think you would do anything for this guys love and attention and he says he will not tell you he loves you but wants you to meet him regularly...You need him more than he wants you. He will controll you if you let him. If you declare yourself to be independent...stand on your OWN two feet you will find your relationship repair with your parents and it is all possible that you will find a person that thinks you are perfect being just who you are! Someone else cannot make you a better person....only you. And do it for yourself, not for the contolling bf. If he does love you....he just may wake up and see that. If he ends up being a memory, then it was not meant to be that you would allow yourself to be controlled. It was meant to be that you are a person who loves herself and share some of that with people deserving like your parents and those that truly worry about you.
2006-08-15 13:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by Donna A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like he's controlling and insecure about your actions, but won't commit or give you any security. You need to drop him, no matter how hard it is. Things will only get worse. His bad temper could easily turn into emotional or physical abuse, and I believe it's already going in that direction. If you think you love him, you must feel in some way that his actions mean something about his feelings for you, but don't make that mistake. He's not controlling you or acting this way out of love, and you'll never gain any self-respect or esteem with a boy like that. You don't have to start dating anyone else right away. Take time to get to know yourself and like yourself. Connect with girlfriends, focus on school, get a job, do other things to improve how you feel about yourself. Love yourself first, then worry about romantic relationships. You'll be in a better position to make a healthy choice in boyfriends.
2006-08-15 20:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he needs to change and stop this abusive behavior.He sounds like he is jealous and is trying to control you.Just dump him,you can do so much better than him.If he says that he doesn't love you,then maybe he is using you.Get out of this relationship before he does something bad to you or starts to hit you.If he gets mad over you breaking up with him,oh well.He will get over it.You don't need a man like him.And by the way,you don't need to change for anybody.Just stay yourself.
2006-08-15 20:48:39 · answer #3 · answered by turtle_rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just abusing you. Get out now - it will cost you nothing. Get out after you are married - you lose everything (to your divorce attorney).
Wake up. There are six (6) billion people in the world. You are not alone on an island with him. You have choises.
2006-08-15 20:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Tom Fonseka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my friend, i'm a guy maybe in your age.and i want to tell you as a guy that i think that he wants to have a great control on you and everything you do.and if you stay with him you'll lose much of your freedoms.now you have to decide to choose him or your freedom.and remember that most guys are like your bf but some of them never show it and some like your bf show it badly what bother you and others.
2006-08-15 20:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to dump this guy ASAP!!! If he gets that angry when you talk to another guy you DON'T need that. No guy is worth it. He won't say I Love You?? If that's true its apparent that he doesn't. If you stay with him its telling him that you don't mind him being that way. As long as you let him act like this he will keep on doing it. GIRL GET AWAY WHILE YOU CAN!!! PLEASE!! Good luck.
2006-08-15 20:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by Teresa W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he sounds as though he need to change. He is going to become violent, and hurt you. Get out now. While you still can. He sounds controlling and you do not need that
2006-08-15 20:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋