hes not good with kids. doesnt like to cook or clean. he is a good hard worker likes to spend him time on the weekends with his friends only and doesnt care about anybody but himself... what would you do with a man like this? i have spent almost 10 yrs with him and nothing changes
2006-08-15 13:36:03 · 21 answers · asked by ice princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, but id like to say im sorry for being totally disrespectful of your feelings for me, and being arrogant in thinking im the sh it, hopefully you forgive me gorgeous and we can keep on keeping on.
signed,
Me in Wisconsin
2006-08-16 15:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Ice prince 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, with a nick name of ice_princess it makes me wonder if you show any affection towards your husband. It's normal for men to work hard to provide. Most men don't clean or cook although my boyfriend is neater than myself and does help out once in a blue moon.
When my boyfriend comes home from work he's hot and tired and grouchy. I give him time to relax. Since our children have feather or fur they usually give him time to relax before begging for attention.
You've been married to the guy for 10 years and not said anything? That's crazy. If he really loves you he'll here you out. Granted they are small issues but it's always the small ones that break the Camel's back. Studies have shown that couples that share in the responsabilities of care for the house do better than those that don't.
2006-08-15 20:53:17 · answer #2 · answered by J Greenhood 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds just like the stereotypical male! If he was like this when you married him, why, if you don't mind my asking, did you marry him? Why don't you start going out with the girls on weekends then. You aren't going to change him. Unless you divorce, the only way to make yourself happy is to MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY! Start by getting involved in things you like doing. Go shopping with the girls, even just window shopping can be fun, you don't have to buy anything. Go to a movie, join a book club, start gardening or pottery or whatever it is that you like to do, DO IT. Get involved in your own interests. Take a class. Just do things that make you happy. Tell him your going out with the girls tonight so he has to make his own dinner tonight. Maybe then he when you aren't there at his beck and call all the time he will see what it feels like and just possibly it will get through his thick skull that he is taking advantage of you. In the meantime, you will be enjoying yourself and maybe learning something new or meeting new people to boot. Marriage is a partnership so don't let him treat you like his personal maid.
2006-08-15 20:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sounds like my husband. Mine has no patience for the kids, works really hard to make a living, spend his days off glued to the nascar race. I will say this much, he does do all the laundry and without complaint.
Sorry, dont want to buy yours, got one of my own.
2006-08-15 20:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to be less of an ice princess to him if you love him. This is usually what happens to a man when his wife pays more attention to the kids or other things then him. He won't tell you. You can't change him overnight. At least he works hard to keep you and the kids fed and a roof over your head.
This happens to lots of men. It has happened to me. I have a hard time talking to my wife. You have it better than me. At least you are in the same home. I don't even get to see my kids yet I work hard to pay for everything. If you love him, try some sugar. He's probably starving for some.
2006-08-15 20:48:41 · answer #5 · answered by Some young guy 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dang gurl......your stuck with him.
You sound like my wife in the past.
But she stuck it out with me.
Now I can't stop loveing her.
Thanks to that Marriage Conference we went to. It's called "A Weekend to Remember" by Family Life.
Great speakers and allot of marriage fun. Tim Downs talks about the difference between men and women and just makes the whole world laugh!
Well anyways, your stuck with him. He loves you or he would of already left you a long time ago.
2006-08-15 20:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to communicate. He has to know your needs. You need to learn his needs. Here's the bad part; it is not easy though it is simple. It takes effort. When you speak with him, do so with calmness and patience and respect. He should respond to such an approach in a positive manner. You don't have to agree with him, just be respectful as you disagree. It may take practice and time for both of you. In short, it will take both of you to get through this. Be forgiving and loving. Tough, but necessary.
2006-08-15 20:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I seriously feel bad for you! I have no idea what thats like, my hubby is the total opposite of everything you just said!!!!!!!!!!!! (except the hard worker part, he definitely is that)
Talk to him!! Tell him you would like to see a change!! Make him see & realize that things cant stay the way they are!!
2006-08-15 21:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Katz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would get into counseling to work on myself and see how I may be enabling this behavior,, then I would maybe encourage him to go with me, depending on how I felt after a few weeks of counseling.
2006-08-15 21:12:00 · answer #9 · answered by yeller 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two options counseling or divorce. Leave him for a few days or weeks, it's amazing what time does to a person. Don't know what you have until it's gone. Trust me.
2006-08-15 20:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Shaneka D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't pay a nickel for him. He should take you out at least 3 times per week and stay home on weekends.
2006-08-15 20:48:19 · answer #11 · answered by moonlite1us 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋