2006-08-15 13:12:33 · 18 answers · asked by Katie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because no matter how much you wanted (and still want) the divorce, you once loved him, were IN love with him, and it's always hard admitting that it's over. I'm a firm believer that love never really dies completely just because the relationship is over.
Be kind to yourself. It'll get easier.
2006-08-15 13:18:05 · answer #1 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because the divorce is final doesn't mean you can flush emotions and good old times in the toilet just like that. People think just because you are over that unseen part, the emotions are now gone. You can't fathom your ex seeing someone else because you've been in that spot that the other person is taking over. You were in the crook of that arm, or that smile on your ex's face was because of you back in the day, now you are confused. One thing is for sure though, you have no choice but to get pass this. It is a process one must go through, its human nature to feel the way you do. Nothing happens overnight, give it time you'll deal, heal.
2006-08-15 13:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, it's like this. At one time, you pledged your life to this man. For whatever reason, it didn't work out, and you decided life was far too long to be with him, and ended it by means of divorce. To see him with someone else means he has moved on, & is not at home pining over you. It almost hurts in a way. You want to believe he only wants you....that will always want only you....regardless of how you feel. That's normal, and well, the best way to get over that is to.....hey, find another love.
Or, the other side to this coin is, you really didn't want a divorce, but chose that route as you thought it may have been easier to deal with than to deal with the real issue at hand.
2006-08-15 13:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes the divorce more real. Seeing him with someone else is sign that he has moved on. You two have history together. You were married and shared secrets and desires with each other, it's hard to just let go of that. I'm sure with every bad memory there is a good one and that is hard to let go of. When you see him, he's probably happy a lot like when you first started dating him. It's ok, to be sad because that shows that you loved him at one time and that you will always have love for him. It's just a right of passage.
2006-08-15 13:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by glamr216 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always difficult when you see someone you used to love with someone else. You have history together and even though in your mind you know it would never work between you two, it is human nature to feel the pangs of jealousy when that person find a new mate. It does become easier and with time more acceptable.
2006-08-15 13:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other side of the coin...I didnt feel that way after my divorce. But I did worry about who he might 'choose' and what kind of lifestyle he might lead afterwards...simply because we had young kids together. It was difficult to get over a 'failed' marriage...it should take you some time to get over that only. If you're feeling jealousy...then it's perhaps because you left before the marriage could be reconciled and you didnt try to do that during. Time will heal ya.
2006-08-15 13:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult to see someone you were in such an intense relationship with moving on with their life without you. You may feel a little left out or forgotten or feel like the time you had together was not that important because they moved on.
2006-08-15 13:53:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that...just because we ask for a divorce does not necessarily mean we are emotionally prepared for it.
My advice is to seek counseling to help you deal with these issues. Talking it out really helps...even if it's just with a trusted friend or family member.
Good luck from someone who's been there...
2006-08-15 13:27:38 · answer #8 · answered by T-Bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard because the expectation was there for the two of you to be together till death do us part. It's a cliche ,but time heals all wounds.Eventually you will get to the point where you can move on and put the marriage behind you. Good Luck
2006-08-15 13:19:06 · answer #9 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the pain of divorce is dreadful, even though you and your ex have shared many wonderful things together and know that they are with someone else still hurts, in time it will go away when you start dating that hottie!
2006-08-19 10:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋