They try giving me advice on my boyfriend telling me not to move in with him till i get married , telling me not to have sex till im married, which i already have done before. But i would say 80% of the women in my job are divorsed at least 2 times . And there trying to give me advice?
And i asked them if they did what there telling me to do and they say yes , so why should i take there advice
2006-08-15 12:58:03 · 11 answers · asked by lovesugarkisses 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
weak minded person? never did i say i talk to these people about my life, your an ignorant person for that comment :)
2006-08-15 13:57:37 · update #1
Do what's right for you.
2006-08-15 13:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I moved in with my boyfriend and my family saw that is very wrong, and most are divorced. In the end, I moved out anyway, to try and get my own establishment, but it had nothing to do with them. Some people don't want others to make their same mistakes too. They may have been down that road before and is sincerely trying to help. Only if you ask for that piece of advice though, it will be nice. If they are trying to rule over you, in a condescending way, listen to your own heart.
2006-08-15 20:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are giving you advice because they're looking out for you. If 80% of them are divorced, they been there & done that and probably know what could help a marriage and get it off to a good start. Perhaps they are being saints because they don't want you to suffer from a divorce like they did.
2006-08-15 20:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, do you complain to them alot? If so, you may be giving off the impression you wanted advice. Seriously. And secondly, it may just be that they see a lot of themselves in your situation and are trying to help you not to make the same mistakes they made. Unfortunately, everybody's different, so just because it didn't work for them doesn't mean it'll end the same way for you.
What it boils down to is that a) either you're inadvertantly asking for it, or b) they just care about you.
2006-08-15 20:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should wait until you are married for those things, I am not preaching at ya here but the bible is full of wisdom and that is some of the wisdom. people tend to be blinded by sex and will let it lead their emotions, if you aren't blinded by lust, you will make wiser decisions. lust can be a very powerful urge. the saints at your work know the power of sex and how they have been controlled by it. you might be wise to consider what they say. it's a tougher road in the beginning but a much easier one in future years.
2006-08-15 20:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they have made many mistakes in their lives and would like to steer you in the right direction. They seem to like you, so don't get offended when they offer advice - just thank them and live your life the way you would like to.
We all have to learn and sometimes the hard way is the only way.
2006-08-15 20:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by cheeky_beth_62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that they're saints, its just that they've "been there done that" sort of thing...maybe if they have to turn the clock back they'd do what they've been telling u..just listen to what they say but at the end of the day its still your decision..its still you life they're talking about, so its up to you how u want to live it :)
2006-08-15 20:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by just me:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the fact that they're divorced should tell you that these women have been there and done that.
2006-08-15 20:04:24 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they have been there done that and they don't want you to make the same mistakes they did
2006-08-15 20:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a weak minded person why don't you do your own thinking
2006-08-15 20:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by ccameronbeaty78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋