I am always reluctant to respond back to anyone who contacts my personals ad if they have 3 or 4 children even though they are mostly grown. Is anyone married to a someone who has several dependent children or grown children from a previous marriage (not necessarily living with them) and is it better to avoid getting involved with someone like this as I have only one child.
2006-08-15 12:29:28 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
unless you already know the person and care about him don't do it. you'll never come first. You,ll start to resent the money he spends on them even though you know it's wrong. You won't have alot of alone time. He'll expect you to mother and take care of them even if their mother is in the picture.If you get married and the mother is dead and you get a divorce you might have to pay child support even if you don't adopt them. Why start something so complicated?
2006-08-15 12:45:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't know of anyone personally, but I don't see how it could doom your marriage. You just have to try to not get too involved, just leave it up to the father of the children, if they are grown. Just nice, patient ,loving and compassionate and they will love you too. It is just when you get into their face too much and tell them what to do, which won't work out. Never give advise unless it is asked, and then walk on egg shells. If the children are young, I am not sure about that, but if the Mother has passed away, then that is different or father. I think it really depends on how respectful the children are and how the parent expects them to respect you too. There could be other issues like jealousy if the other spouse is still alive, but if they are happily married, it could be just fine. Good luck. Ask God to help you, and He will guide.
2006-08-15 12:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby has 3 young kids from prev marriage(i have 3 also) we do pretty good mixing all the kids together and i find his kids are very easy to love, the thing you have to be prepared for is the ex, his has custody of the kids and she uses them to hurt him, and to try and control him. The headache is from her and the way she influences the kids.
2006-08-15 12:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you have a problem with that? people breed, that's what we are for. Why should you care if he has kids? My wife had kids before i met her, and so did i......then we married and had more. You must be really shallow. Are there income requirements attached to your love too?
I cant stand plastic people.
2006-08-15 12:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋