Help!! what would you do????

Question

what would you do....
if your going to an enormous high school
where you will be a freshman.
and your friends are either now going to a private school or moved so now you are practically friendless
how would you deal with not being a loner?
because no one really wants to accept new people in thier clique
and i keep reading the same thing: be yourself. BUT BEING YOURSELF? wtf i mean thats really not much help
ALSO ANY TIPS FOR SURVIVING HIGH SHCOOL IN GENERAL?

Answer 1

join some clubs or get involved in as many activities as you can. just put yourself out there and don't hold back, because hey, you've got nothing to lose. look at it this way, you've got it better than everyone else because you can make whatever you want to of yourself because nobody knows you.

Answer 2

The main thing is focus on your studies. Get your assignments done and listen to lectures so you have a strong foundation for college. Get involved in clubs sports and extracurriculars. You can meet great people and make you a well rounded balanced person.

Just be yourself, do not try to be “cool” or “popular”. Dress simple and modest and try not to wear too much make up. It gives people less opportunity to pick on you, but if they do smack them… lol. Let people EARN your trust. No need to tell everyone your whole life story, you do not want to let your self be open for gossip.

What helped me was I was cool with everyone and did not treat them as any different as the next person. What helped even more is that I did not label anyone. I had SO MUCH FUN in high school; although I would not go back (high school can have its downers).

Take care and good luck

Answer 3

Wahine is right. Find an activity that you want to take part in. Do it because you're genuinely interested, or you'll be sorry you joined.

There are a million things...Sports, Student Government, French Club, Chess Club, Mock Trial...the list goes on and on and on.

Once you're there, you'll be with people who also have the same interest as you...It'll be much easier to make friends with them once you have this connection.

FYI, all of this is part of being yourself...if you do things that YOU like, then you're likely to find people that you like, and people will like you more, because you're a happier person.

Also, always remember that just about everyone else is as scared as you are. If you take the first step, and start with something simple, like, "Hi!", you're likely to get a smile and a "Hi!" right back.

Answer 4

its really not that hard i was a freshman last year. it wasnt that fun because the first year is harder than the years after that. just try to talk to upper classmen with out acting like your better than them or at there level, they will just call you a loser. its not that hard to fall into a clique just find nice people that will have your back if you get into trouble with whatever. but what ive learned about highschool is that popularity really doesnt rule the school anymore its really about how you put yourself out to be. some times being your self works, sometimes it doesnt but soon you'll be one step closer to being a senior and ruleing the school with your new friends getting away with anything. and high school teachers dont really like freshmen but after a while youll grow on them.
hope i helped

Answer 5

welcome to life, you meet people everywhere you go so don't trip. if you really have a good friend they will always be your friend , keep in touch. the only true friend that you have is god and yourself. you don't have to worry about any thing you say getting out. you are your best friend in the whole world. your parents are not even going to be their like you are. be a leader not follower. don't let no one tell you to try anything or do any thing be your own boss okay. nowadays peer pressure is at an all time high. don't try to be like the Jones. be yourself.

Answer 6

Don't let it scare you, high school is one of the best times of your life. You will not be the only one that has friends going to a different school. Can you hang out somewhere that is a popular place for the kids going to that high school? Maybe that would be a good way to meet them. How about joining a sport or even cheerleading. Good Luck to you.

Answer 7

God I hated high school!!!!!!!!!!! I wasn't active with stuff at school. I figured skated for 10 yrs and had friends there. I had one best friend in high school and we hung out for 3 yrs. together. Guys there also didn't interest me either, they all talked about who they went out with and how much they got over the week end. In my senior year my boyfriend was in his freshmen yr. in college so I didn't date anyone at school, however because my best friend and I hung out and my boyfriend wasnt' there people at school decided we were lesbians!!! Ya know what I didnt care what they said I just lived my life and spent time where it was necessary. All I can say is find someone who relates to you and believe me there are some and just become pals and hang out together!

Answer 8

ok trust me i know how u feel for some reason my family always has tomove to a new place after like every 1 or 2 years o i'm only 15 and i have been to 10 differnet schools (i'm not joking)and all those schools i dint know anyone and i never can stayat the same school for more than a year or 2 but thats all now i'm starting to hate and i wish my family would stop moving this year i went to high school in 9 th grade and i din't know anyone at this highschool that i'm going since i moved from canada to america (so offfcurse i dont anyone in this whole state) well it was my first year at highschool and i ws so scared about friends all i thought i would never be able to make friends since i moved in the middle of the year but belive me know i have like tons of firend and i try to stay with them all and i din't have to do anything i jsut became friends with all firend just like that it just happens and thats how it has been the same for all the 10 school i went i just made friends like that but when u go to ur new high school and when school starts try to talk to people in ur class and dont be shy coz if ur shy u'll b left out u wont really make anyfriends so just hang with a girl that u talked to or had fun talking to and if she likes just hang with her and she will have friends and then u'll become friends with her and everyone will be friends but seriously talk to people even new people dont be shy just talk and if u girls or whatever seem to be getting along like ur having fun talking just stick with them and sit with them at lunch and try to make as many friends possible and oh yea when u said no one likes no people thats not true lot girls actaullyike meetingnew girls and all trust me i know u thing goign tohighschool is hard well trying moving every year to new school and try making new freinds every year in a school where u know no one so good luck and remeber dont be shy to talk to girls and alljsut go into a group and talk and try sit near girls thats one way u can make firends like by sitting next to someone i usly do that the girlnext will surly tlk to u and u should to jut say hey and ur anem and stuff likethat (and if u think the person is mean doesn'tlike u then well kind of stop talking to them ) u'll be fine at high school trust me it's notthing like they on tv and all it's not that bad u'll get used to it just like when u first went to middle school from elementry school

Answer 9

Quit worrying about what people think of you. They don't.
Not unless you give them a reason to. Make it a good reason....

Be really nice. To everyone. Compliment every other person on something specific...."Hey! Great shoes," or "That was really thoughtful!" or "I like what you said in class,you really know your stuff..." Focus on good things about other people. Point them out.
You will be noticed for your extroverted personality, and you will not hide your personality behind anxiety.
Join a sport or a club. Maintain social ties. Don't make the mistake of pre-judging peoples' lack of acceptance of you......assume that you are welcome.
People only treat others badly as a reflection of how they feel about themselves. If anyone does treat you badly, pretend you have assumed that they have the best of intentions, smile sweetly and say "I know you meant that in the nicest possible way, but we're really going to have to polish up your social skills..."
Pretend you love everybody and that everyone loves you. Your sunny disposition and acknowledgment of other peoples' good qualities will make people feel good around you and want you around.
Avoid trying to be just like others, dress like them, talk like them, go the same places. Find cool things to do, master a skill or talent.....it makes you more interesting and it's something that builds you up, and something you can share with others. Don't worry about being "cool"......do stuff and make it "cool" yourself.
Inspire others to feel good and you will feel good yourself. Never feel like you can "make" others like you. You can't make them like you. You will annoy them...but you can like something about them, and tell them, and they will like you.
Don't date one boy exclusively and limit yourself to gaining experience with other guys....tell them your parents have a rule aout seeing someone exclusively. Don't put out. Guys who respect you will not pressure you, and you will avoid a bad reputation. Unfortunately some girls have to put out to get guys to like them, and that only works for a day. It's too that sex is the only good quality to offer someone. Don't be like that.
Don't be a pushover or gullible, either. If someone tries to talk you into anything, they are not respecting your first answer, and do not have your best interest in mind. Sometimes people will try to wera you down. Listen to your gut and stick to your first answer.
Remember, high school may seem like it's so hard, but after high school,. you'll wish you were back in high school. Especially with the schoolwork. Do well and don't cheat. Do well and help others with their work. Teach yourself how to "buy time"....what that means is if you have a week to get something done, do it right away so you free up your time afterwards for spontaneous plans that might pop up at a moment's notice.

You will do fine.

Answer 10

either people will accept you for yourself or they wont. it is much better than if you pretend to be something you are not just to get in good with them. those are not true friends and it will show in the end. dont worry this is just a brief period in time it wont be long and you will have plenty of friends