i just broke up with my bf of almost 2 years. he is a great guy and i know that he loves me more than anything. the reason i broke up with him is because for a long time i havent felt like i am in love with him. it was the hardest thing to do. a part of me feels like i made a mistake but another part of me feels like i will be okay. am i stupid to let someone who loves me that much go?? did i give up to soon?? i've tried to feel in love with him and i really am not sure if i am or not. but now i feel so sad. i dont know what to do. are these feelings normal after breaking up with someone?? did i make a mistake?? i dont know....
2006-08-15 11:44:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you did the right thing for yourself. If you don't really feel the love after that long with someone then you should move on and find someone that you really love and not someone that you settle for. Don't second quess yourself, right now it feels like a mistake but, in time you will be glad you did. Think how unfair it is to him that you really don't love him. The sadness is coming from being so use to that person in your life and it is changing.
2006-08-15 12:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't feel in love with him you did do the right thing. The only reason why you want to go back is because you are USE to him being there. It will be hard at first but it gets better over time. You now when you are in love with someone.
2006-08-15 18:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by motherofbjz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have feelings of loss and regret after a breakup even if you have legitimate reasons for leaving.
You need to know that you cannot help how you feel, and it would be wrong to force yourself to stay in a relationship that you do not feel is beneficial. In the long run, it is better to leave a dying relationship than to attempt to stay in it when you are miserable. Your feelings would come out in other ways, like irritability, regret, and possibly even eventual hatred.
You need to be strong, because the boy will do anything to get you back. You need to be adamant in your choice and not allow him to charm you. Remember that you deserve a boy that will make you happy!
2006-08-15 18:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know either honey, I know it's hard - because sometimes it's really hard to find someone that loves you so much and you wonder if you'll be loved like that by anyone else. But you can't kid yourself either, if you're not in love with him then you won't be happy in the long run. I'm sure it'll all work out in the long run. Take Care!!
2006-08-15 18:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are having normal feelings after a break up,the usual things you did with him are not there so you will feel uneasy for a while if you are not giving 100% to this relationship than it was best to break up.Put yourself out there to date again you might find that you really did love this guy or again you might really find out that you have been missing out on alot of fun,so give it a while and let your self grow and find out who you really are.
2006-08-15 18:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You done the right thing, if you feel you don't love him its better to finish than keep a relationship going on habit. You're bound to have doubts because you have been used to having him around you. Good luck to both of you in the future
2006-08-15 18:54:56 · answer #6 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you made a mistake because in a relationship sometimes you are not going to feel like you are in love all the time but you dont just quit so yes you made a mistake
2006-08-15 18:51:09 · answer #7 · answered by sexy love 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you really not know?
or are you scared of admitting the truth....
You've tried to fall in love with him but you just couldnt. Its not your fault, it happens. As long as you let the guy down gently you did the right thing. It wasnt fair to you or to him.
TIme to move on for both of you
2006-08-15 18:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i really dont know the answer to this question...i guess just follow your heart....listen to it...what ever it says go with it if you decide you miss him to much then go and see if he wants to date again....that is what i did too butit was only after 8 months and then i decided that i loved him more than anything and now we have been dating for almost 2 years
2006-08-15 18:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if he loves you, then that is his opinion. but if you dont love him, dont force yourself to. love is somthing special that is shared between two people that lasts forever. if you "love" him back only because you feel sorry for him, you're cheating not only yourself, but him too. because when you get a choice between him or somone else that you do love, then he will have to feel a worse pain than anything else. losing you is one thing. but losing you to another man is 100 times worse
2006-08-15 18:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by waffleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋