2006-08-15 11:41:21 · 18 answers · asked by soon_better 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first step is probably romance. Little things that remind her that you care about her will be a big step towards making her more sexually interested. If you don't often surprise her, you might start small, such as leaving a note that says 'I love you' somewhere that it will surprise her. Large displays like covering the bed in rose petals and lighting the bedroom with candles as a surprise may win her affection or raise suspicion, but regardless are only a short term fixes. Constant affection and open communication are key. What are the limits for both of you? What areas are you interested in exploring? Make sure you answer the first before you bring up the second, and always make sure she's completely comfortable and feels safe before you bring up any touchy topics. Remember, if you can't think of what else to do, there are many books on the subject that you can buy or even read at a bookstore (maybe over a cup of coffee) that may help you.
2006-08-15 11:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad to see a guy who actually cares enough to want to please his lady as well as himself. Now to the question at hand the whole asking her doesn't always work some women are shy about the whole thing and can't say what they really want. start with some nice long open mouth kissing stroke her hair and tell her she turns you on. undress her kiss her neck then go south if she tries to push you away just keep going it may take her a moment to relax and enjoy but she will enjoy start of soft and light flicks of your tongue then when she starts to wiggle a bit give her some tongue lashings hell yeah. Then flip her around and get behind her and go all out doggiestyle women love this because you get all the way inside and you can feel your balls hit the clit with every thrust. Start slow then bang the S.H.I.T out of her. Good Luck with your lady.
2006-08-15 12:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by gracie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the problem is, hon. You'd have to give us a hint first to really be able to suggest anything. Are you bored? Is she? Is stress getting in the way? If it's boredom, shake up the routine a bit. Surprise her with a hot bath, wash her up, give her a massage. Or go the kinky route...by toys or little treats you lick off of each other. Use your imagination and let it go wild.
2006-08-15 11:50:19 · answer #3 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her input. Books and videos can help. Shop for some toys together. If you talk to each other, you can come up with some pretty interesting ideas. My husband and I did. Things didn't always end up as we hoped but we had fun trying.
2006-08-19 11:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who better to ask than the person whom you are trying to please. Communications is a necessity to keep things from blowing out of proportions in a relationship, especially a marriage. Make it a night time conversation while the two of you are about to retire, and you may be surprised to see that she appreciates the consideration & might just rock your world. :-)
2006-08-15 11:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is all about pleasure, try first to know what is her problem, ordinarily she will not say no to sex in as much as she accept marriage, find out what is her problem , even if you cant solve her problem at a material time, take at least a step towards solving her needs or problems, always try to put smiles on her face, making her happy always should be your watchword, if only she is happy she will give you the best of her ability, but respect her wishes when making love to her, make sure it is slow and steady. `
2006-08-15 12:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sir Joe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmmm....i'm assuming that it's wham bang and done and over w/in about 2 to 3 min? get the book of kama sutra. you should have some pretty good positions to try. also ask your wife what she enjoys and you can share some foreplay from there. good luck man!
2006-08-15 11:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great sex begins in the brain. Make love to her mind. Romance her. It's an all day everyday things. Your job is to woe her. Make her feel valued and not an object. Great sex is about listening to one another's needs and desires. Ask her what she wants sexually and give it to her. Make "her" pleasure your goal.
2006-08-15 12:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by 43andcurious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can ask her what does she like or want i know i love it when my husband does that or let her take control of things in the bed like my man does
2006-08-15 11:58:35 · answer #9 · answered by toohot4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just find out what she wants before even start to have sex and when you do surprise her with trying what she suggest
2006-08-15 11:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by vinceweld 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋