I'm due in court soon over my divorce settlement. My ex divorced me and has lied completely about everying that went on in our marriage. I haven't seen her since last year and i am still bitter about what has happened. What is the best way to deal with this. She told me if i ever see her and ignore her it will hurt her a lot. Do you think i should ignore her when i see her to hurt her like she has hurt me or not.
2006-08-15 11:39:24 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO! Ignoring her to hurt her is wrong. Ignore her because she lied during the divorce. After making the best deal for herself, even if it required lies, she'll want to let be-gones be by-gones.
2006-08-15 13:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is so short..... far too short to make each others time a misery. Although there are issues between you right now, one day either one of you might hit a crisis in your lives , to which you feel the need to seek comfort/ help from the other and I think it would be best to remain on speaking terms as you will spend a lot more time trying to hurt each other than trying to be civil with one another. Dont burn your bridges ..... or theres no way back. Hope it gets resolved for you both. Good luck
2006-08-15 18:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't ignore her. You kill those who mistreat you by being as nice & kind as you can tolerate. I found that out from my not stressing over my ex finally for the things he did to me with his list. He has a difficult time dealing with his pain now, and things tend to be working out really for the better for me. So, you always treat others as you want them to treat you, it really does pay in the long run. Just don't make the mistake of letting them talk you back into the same situation with the lies of things changing. It may for a little while, but not totally. Married the same guy twice listening to that s___ & divorced him twice. Be careful with your heart, it can only take so much.
2006-08-15 19:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have children it would be nice if you could be respectful to each other but why would it hurt her if you ignore her i don't get it cause if that was the case then why did you divorce gone on with your life let the bitterness go it does no one any good if you run into her by accident say hi and keep moving let her know you are a better person then she was good luck
2006-08-15 18:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by poda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that you should tell the trusth in court as they will find out that she is lieing and go in your favour. Right to the talking thing.... I would just smile at her or say hello. DOnt ignor her otherwise she could turn really nausty in court and you dont want that at all. I know you are hurting and things like that but dont make things worse for you by not talking I know its going to be hard to talk as she has hurt you loads.Good luck and I hope things go in you favour.
2006-08-16 03:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, honey. She sounds really manipulative and you're better off without a person like that. Ignore her, turn around, and walk away, live your life and make yourself happy. Forget what she thinks about it; she didn't think about your feelings when she lied about your marriage, right? Don't intentionally hurt her back, but don't go out of your way not to, either. Don't give in to her. Walk away.
2006-08-15 18:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the majority here. Take the high road. Be the better man. Show decency, dignity and grace when she is losing hers. She is now part of your past...after the divorce, she can't touch you emotionally.
A nod in acknowledgement if you ever bump into each is all she can expect. DO NOT TALK TO HER. She starts talking or screaming at you, just keep walking away.
2006-08-15 19:03:43 · answer #7 · answered by DutchmanB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to talk to someone who is so spiteful and such a liar, why do people do this to each other after years of been together and loving each other, she needs to get her principles right, do the decent thing and admit she lied and then maybe you might dignify her with an hello now and again.
2006-08-15 18:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's best to be sivel, be the bigger person, you can do that with your head held high as she's the one who's lied. the best revenge, well, part is just live your life and be happy good thing's come to those who wait, if she still cares for you or if she just wants to hurt you then the best thing is it will hurt her seeing you living your life happily without her and you are happy anyway. cant say it will be easy but dont waste your life she wasnt meant to be if all she does is want to hurt you.
2006-08-15 18:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by ANDIE# 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say hello and be mature, even if she doesn't deserve it.....you gotta start healing sometime. It takes more energy to keep up an unforgiving spirit and it only hurts you. Do the work to get through the pain and resentment and move on with your life.
2006-08-15 18:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋