2006-08-15 11:35:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2006-08-15 11:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Penney S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to find out WITHOUT making out with a guy? if you are really attracted to a guy, you will make out with him. err... if he's into that. if you're just being shy or can't really act on your desires where you are right now... you COULD go to a psychologist... but be careful to make sure they are comfortable talking about bisexuality and gay issues. worst case: you could end up with some conservative christian psychologist who believes the only answer is to "make you straight" not so bad case, you could end up with a doctor who is straight and just doesn't understand what you're going through. see if you can look into a local gay support group, they can either help you or suggest a good counselor.
2006-08-15 18:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by thirty-one characters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Psychologist cannot tell you if you are gay, bi or straight -- you already know what you are.
The next time you masturbate, let yourself go -- don't control your fantasies -- let your mind go where it wants.
Do that several times.
If your fantasies are all about girls -- you are straight
If they are about both -- you are bi
If they are all about boys -- you are gay.
Much cheaper than having someone charge you 100$ an hour to basically walk you through "experiencing" your feelings to reach the same conclusion through a more glorified version of the same thing.
Have fun and believe in yourself, no matter what you are.
Peace.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
http://www.rebuff.org
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-08-15 20:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has a lot to do with your age, your "morals," your self-awareness, and your willingness to explore yourself.
There's a lot of evidence that bisexuality is a common occurrence, but that people identify themselves as either gay or straight by the dominant direction that their sex drive takes them. Oddly, for some reason, not a lot fall right on the 50-50 dividing line. So if you find yourself MORE drawn to members of your own gender, you'll likely identify more gay, and vice versa for straight. Identifying as bisexual is becoming more common, but even those people often find themselves leaning more in one direction than the other.
If you're young (15 years old or less), you may figure this out just by allowing yourself to mature. Some thing just have a way of arising on their own, so to speak.
If you are wanting to avoid dating and "making out" for moral reasons, you might want to consider what it is that you're objecting to. Do you consider all "making out" morally objectionable, or is there some internalized objection to homosexuality that would prevent you from dating someone to whom you're attracted?
Seeing a counselor to increase your self-awareness can be beneficial. If you are troubled by the urges you find within yourself, then definitely find someone you can trust who doesn't have an investment in the answer you finally discover. You may also talk to some other people who have gone through this struggle of self-discovery to find out what they experienced.
Good luck.
2006-08-15 19:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could see a counselor... or you could experiment solo.. you do not have to have sex with a same sex partner to know you are attracted to them... expose yourself to gay porn...ask yourself questions and answer then honestly... Am I turned on by it? is it the act I'm turned onto or the man? both? if it turns you on...analyze it a bit further... do you think it turns you on because you are picturing yourself having sex with a man or because its a forbidden thing in societies eyes and that in itself is exciting for you?.. If you are asking this question I'm sure you already have a head start on answering these questions... if you cant figure it out on your own... there's no harm in seeking out the guidance of a counselor... She/he wont be able to tell you if you are gay but they will be able to help you find the answers...
good luck
2006-08-15 19:05:50 · answer #5 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're gay you wont need to ask to be making out with a guy.
2006-08-15 19:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you close your eyes and fantasize where do your fantasies take you? What makes you the hottest? A guy and a gal or just a guy, or just a girl? That's how you know. The fantasies don;t lie, man.
2006-08-15 18:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Darkchaos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly, you really don't know until you try it. However....if you have never had sexual feelings towards people of the same sex as you, chances are, you're not gay. Either way, does it really matter, as long as you're happy?
2006-08-15 18:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffene N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to go through it, baby, not around it. Just make out with another guy! Gees.
2006-08-15 22:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to make out with a guy, then you're probably not gay. (I'm assuming you're a guy?)
2006-08-15 19:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by Harry_Cox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋