well, to make a long story short, my parnets are getting a divorce. but my dad has no clue about this. my dads been cheating on my mom for almost 7 years. my mom never knew but my 2 older sisters and i did. finally one day my older sister got mad at my dad and told my mom everything about my dad. this happend probally like a week ago. now already my mom is giving my dad divorce papers. hes abaric and has a very bad temper. but im really going to miss him, is there anything i can do before its too late? does anyone have parents who got divorce? and whats the outcome, are you happy or sad? thanks
2006-08-15 11:31:40 · 14 answers · asked by kaykay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Abaric or not your dad should not be cheating on your mother and you girls should have told your mother a long time ago when you first found out he was cheating on your mother, your dad needs to grow up and so what if your dad has a bad temper then your mom should get all her stuff out of the house when he is at work or when he is at work change the locks and have a cop serve him the divorce at his work, they can do that. And another thing if your dad even tries to hurt your mother man you better help your mother that women carried you for 9 months in her tummy she brought you in this world you better help her even if you have to jump on you dads back.
2006-08-15 11:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by stevenandteena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents will be happier if this divorce goes through. Your mom can never trust your dad again. They may never have been happy, but were just staying together for you kids.
My parents did not divorce. They stayed together for the kids. It was terrible. They would fight all the time and put us kids right in the middle of it. They always made us go tell mom, or go tell dad. We didn't have a very good home environment. The stress level in the house was so high that I had a break-down in high school.
You really should have said something to your mom long ago. Think of her shame. She wasted those years when she could have been with someone who really loved her.
2006-08-15 11:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it very very wrong for your dad to cheat on your mother... and also he has very bad temper and he a abaric? and you going to missed him? what up??? if you get married and you found out your husband cheating on you what would you do??? you will give divorce paper to your husband... your mother put alot trust and faith in your dad. What he do didn't care about yoru mother at all....
Look at me I love my wife and No way I ever do that to her... why shoud I cheat?? what did I get married first place Becasue I love her and Will do everything to make this marriage success but If not then it will not work out.
I am not sad about my parents divorce. because both used me against mom or dad. Not being there to love me as a son. None, So I promised my self that I would never cheat on my wife and never will do anything like my parents do. smiling.
so that why. 7 years doing that to your mother. wow. that is so disrespect what he did for his wife and family you girls too.
2006-08-15 12:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 when my parents divorced...it was one week before my 15th birthday. They had been fighting for several years. I almost threw a party when she told my 2 sisters and I that she was going to divorce him (just didn't like the timing).
My younger sister on the other hand started to cry!...It depends on what you value and that you realize the effect of the relationship on each other. Cheating on somene for 7 years is BAD!...he dosn't respect her at all.
He may be a good father and you may love him....of course divorce is not good, but try to look at it from her perspective. It doesn't end your relationship with your father...if you are older than 12 you get to decide whom you want to live with.
2006-08-15 13:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by pheonixardent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'm sorry you're going through this, but unfortunately it's out of your hands. It's their problem, not yours. It doesn't mean they don't love you or want you. Has nothing to do with you two at all, and even though your sister snitched, chances are your mother would have found out anyway. The truth always comes out eventually. Chances are they'll be happier seperate than they were together.
I grew up with divorced parents, but they divorced when I was really little, so having two seperate households was all I really ever remembered. Sorry.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-15 11:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you did to cause this divorce or nothing you can do to stop it it sounds like your Dad has had problems for years I am sure he loves you and things will be different but they might turn out to be better than your parents living together unhappy to living apart happy and thy will have time to spend quality time just with you Is there a school counselor that you can talk to or your Pastor or Priest this would be a good thing to talk to someone that can help you get through this rough time
2006-08-15 11:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same thing happen in my family - my dad was cheating on my mom for a long time and my brothers and I knew it, but didn't have the heart to tell our mom. We knew she would be crushed. Well, it turned out that right away when my mom did find out, we moved out and in the long run my dad really missed us and was really sorry for what happened and my mom is way happier now, she's remarried and loving it!!Good Luck to your family - it'll all work out for the best. I'll keep you in my prayers!
2006-08-15 11:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, there is nothing you can do. your father could be a good father but a bad husband. So unless you want a boyfriend like that, where he cheats on you. Than help, if not, stand by your mom side on this. As a outsider, you should be happy for your mom. You can still be nice to your father, but you can't help him in this case.
2006-08-15 11:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i can answer from your dads point of view, my wife of 20 yrs divorced me ,but she was the one who was cheating ,my two girls new about it but didn't tell me, i had to find out later, that hurt as well,but i was no angel either i cheated on her 4 times only because i was sure she had done it to me early in our marriage,and i know that two wrongs don't make it right, but if your mom is set on the divorce then it is pretty much a sure thing and there is nothing you can do to stop it,remember most of all its NOT YOUR FAULT,just love them equally
2006-08-15 12:16:19 · answer #9 · answered by augydoggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my parents are not together and its unfortunate but i am kind of happy. My dad cheated on my mom a # of times and he wasn't really being a father to me when he was around:(
(damn i can't believe I'm starting to cry right now)
he wasn't a good man and I am living better off without him. that's all I can say
2006-08-15 11:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋