we were having lunch togeher today and as i look up on the ceilling of his car in between the moonroof and the glass there was a piece of paper he didnt want me to see it i knew right there that it was going to be a number and sure it was a ****** number it was a card from a hotel with his name written in the back with another name of a female and a phone number he said that he dosent know whos's is it.....but i know that he was problably ******* around.... i need advise on what to do>>>>
2006-08-15 11:28:46 · 36 answers · asked by wendy s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Girlfriend that is fate telling you to get rid of him - alot of times we (women)get signs or red flags that tell us this is the wrong person but we ignore it hoping it will get better, but the more you accept it the worse it gets - life is too short; Drop him, take a trip somewhere, give yourself time to heal, and look for someone more deserving of you - it's not just a common catch phrase but a better man is out there who can treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Why risk your mental and physical health on someone who obviously thinks with the wrong head- by mentally I mean stressing you out , and by physically I mean possibly contracting diseases by messing around with skanks. The best way to get back at him is to leave him and live a happy fulfilling life without him - no lunches or get togethers for old time sake - in fact unless you have kids together don't deal with him at all. karma will get him one way or the other
2006-08-15 12:01:08 · answer #1 · answered by dee dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 02:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you calling him your soon to be EX husband, because of finding this card?? Wendy..... In finding this card, I'd say its quite obvious that he's either cheated on you, or plans too... You can do 1 of 2 things, either leave his sorry self right now, with the proof you found, which if you dont have the card, then he'd say you were over reacting, or ride it out a little bit. Get some friends to help you get some solid proof, different cars, etc....
Good luck...... And remember no one deserves to be disrespected this way.... Hold your head up high, and even though it might sting a bit, dont let him know it!! Do whats best for you!
2006-08-15 12:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As terrible as this sounds, the best way to get back at him is to just not let him know you are bothered by this.
If you just go on with the divorce and don't have lunch with him, don't see him, go out and have a great life, he can't see your reaction to things like that. He can't enjoy knowing that he can still control your actions.
Once you turn away from him, he will lose control over you. You have to draw the line and tell him that you aren't interested in meeting anymore. Tell him if he really needs to talk about something that he can call a friend. Tell him that all communication must be through your lawyer because you don't have time to deal with him.
2006-08-15 11:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, take it from somebody who's dealt with a whorem_____ for many years, don't do anything but let him know what you will & won't stand in your marriage. If he messes up after fair warning, than go on to whatever makes you happy in life. By all means, do not try to get back at him because if things go wrong in the marriage, it would more likely be you to get caught doing whatever and give him the upper hand on why things didn't work out. If he's cheating, you are the main person who could tell by his actions & the things he does differently. So, hold off after having your talk to see if he's willing to risk his livelihood for something he'll soon regret, believe me, my ex claims he wished he would have listened to me about the home wrecker he's with now. Be a bigger person & live your vows, it will be in your favor.
Good Luck!!
2006-08-15 11:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly did you have in mind? If he is screwing around you should just dump his *** and get over him. If you want to renovate the relationship, then lose some of the anger and figure out why he is screwing off. Most women try to blame themselves, and then it only gets worse. It his insecurities that drive him to prove his manlihood.
Do you have children? Their needs should come before yours and his. Get someone that is close to him to do an intervention. Bust him with what you know and make him feel like the weenie he is being. Then he will alter his behavior to regain some of his self esteem. If he does not respond dump him, because you are in for a life of misery if he won't cop to the charges and alter his behavior. Remember to get this done right he has to beg you for forgiveness and you have to give it to him an inch at a time.
2006-08-15 11:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by yes_its_me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take a breather.. No need in angering your spirit.. People do things for there own reason, not for the reason of others. So revenge is not the answer.. It will only hurt you..
I read one Sunday morning about fellowship and how important it is to the human psyche. It has been stated that without affection from one individual to the next, the human mind will deteriorate. Can you imagine going through life without love, affection from others, tainted recollection of fellowship? I am sure there are some who think they have experienced these kinds of lack in there life, but I was also told and believe that there is one great thing to gain out of times such as these. If we walk in the light and stay out of the dark or the rain, he who is in light we can fellowship with, and the Father and Son can purify us from any burden. Sounds outright amazing to me!
Rom 12:17-20
17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: "It is mine to avenge; I will repay," says the Lord. 20 On the contrary:
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Secondly , Gen 50:17
Now please forgive the sins of the servants of the God of your father." When their message came to him, Joseph wept.
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Ask yourself, Why would he need to cheat? Don't get mad, it may not be your fault, does he have issues. Your his wife, find out and help him.. Even if you don't like him right now. He'll be shocked.. ANd probably love you more for the fact your not leaving.good luck darlin
2006-08-15 11:42:12 · answer #7 · answered by tracienmark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you trust what he sez talk to him find out the truth if that's at all possible don't jump to conclusions it wont do you any good. if it comes out that he is messing around on you and that spells the end for you then the best thing to do is just walk away revenge is never the answer it will only make the situation worse
2006-08-15 11:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by lonly_male4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is soon to be an ex husband why are you worried about it? Stop being immature, jealous and vindictive. Revenge never works and you are wasting precious time. Take the high road, sweetie......you will gain nothing and just end up making a fool out of yourself if you continue in this way. If I were you, I would focus on my own behavior instead of worrying about what he is doing. From my take, you need lots and lots of work, sweetie pie!
2006-08-15 11:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just get the divorce and his lying a** out of your life. Getting back at him won't help, it will only make the divorce even more ugly. Get a good lawyer and take your ex to the cleaners!
2006-08-15 11:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋