HELP! How do I get him to leave me alone?

Question

Any suggestions on how I can get my ex boyfriend (who is married) to leave me alone. I have told him to buzz off verbally, and I even ignore him when I see him around about. Yet, he still calls and emails me a lot. I even gone so far as to tell him to leave his family, if he wants me so bad. I figured that if I cgave him an ultimatum it would make him stop and leave me alone. He had left all of his other girlfriends when they asked him to do that. None of it has helped. He doesn't seem to get it. I no longer want to see him. I am no longer interested in him. He's married! I want better for myself. I've even told him that he has a wife and kids and should try really hard to be a good husband and father to them. Still he bugs me. I'm interested in someone else. This has been going on for a year now. Any suggests?

I have told him numerous times that I'm not interested and don't want to see him anymore. It's almost as though my words fall on deaf ears or something.

Answer 1

I'm pretty sure all these answers have probably been tried out.
Ignoring him only pisses them off more and threatening to tell his wife obviously doesn't matter if he doing this as a married man. Restraining orders could help in case something happens cause it will work as proof of his behavior, but if his obsession lands you in a body bag (god forbid) then then that's a bit too late.

Honestly honey, you're probably gonna have to deal with him till he finally gives up & leaves it alone. I have a friend that has the same problem w/ her ex right now & he's been doing this for the last 6 months. Some days he's not a bother but most days he is. Good luck!

Answer 2

well, restraining orders dont usually work. I know people who have still been killed even with one pending or the couple end up breaking the restraining order just to see each other again. I would say ignorance. Sad but true. Move away. DO something else. But i mean i dont get it. YOu say he is married. Why would he be bothering you??????? : >

Answer 3

have you tried threatening him that you will tell his wife? Maybe he'll stand back if he cares about that. Restraining order may come in handy as well. if it's that bad, obviously, try to get the police involved or just threaten him with that. This guy seems pretty desperate to me and that puts you at a safety risk. good luck and i hope all goes well.

Answer 4

Just ignore him, and stop telling him to leave you alone, just simply don't open his emails or answer his calls, and if you see him out walk the other way.
If this doesn't work, get a restraining order against him.

Answer 5

1. tell his current wife.
2. get a lawyer and ask for advice.
3. call the police and ask how to get a restraining order.

Answer 6

show up someplace where he will see you and have a really BIG guy with you -- then point at him and yell SEE SEE THAT"S HIM, then have the big guy run over to him and say: if you ever contact my girl again i'm smash you do you understand me???"

you can pay a guy to do it -- but make sure he is totally huge and scary.

i did this once but to a real estate agent and it worked like a charm the guy sh_*t his pants.

Answer 7

i'm getting so emotional, each and every time i imagine of GCG. And by technique of emotional, I recommend i doesn't dare defile his holy call. I worry being decrease, and the MaryJo Buttafucco seem merely doesn't artwork for me!

Answer 8

Change your phone number and email address. If he calls your work, hang up. Sooner or latter he will finally get the hint.

Answer 9

Change your number. Change your email address or just delete his msgs. He is harrassing you at this point. If you can move to a different location, even better.

Answer 10

Don't answer his calls or his email. Stay as far away from him as you can. If he comes over tell him you will call the police.