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My wife and I will be together 6 years when our first child is born.

A lot of people have told me that we are crazy for waiting until we are together for 6 years before starting a family.

I think its smart. Some people are married and divorce with children after 6 years, so we are probably better off than most couples.

We are very stable, financially and emotionally after 6 years of togetherness.

We know each other so well and I think if we had a child any earlier we wouldn't be as close as we are now.

6 years isn’t the norm now a days, but I think it’s a good amount of time, don’t you think?

How long did you wait to have your child with your partner?

2006-08-15 11:11:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

14 answers

We waited 13 years. My husband and I were married when we were 20 years old. I'm glad we didn't have children until our 30s. We can provide more time, money, commitment etc. then we ever could have earlier. The only worry I had with starting our family at 33 instead of 23 is that it was very easy to just get up and go or do whatever we wanted. We'd become pretty independent. BUT... we absolutely adore our daughter and can't imagine life without her. When you get to hold that little baby the last thought on your mind will be if you waited too long. Trust me, enjoy the moment.

2006-08-15 13:31:28 · answer #1 · answered by mel 4 · 1 0

I think 6 years is a good amount of time. It gives you a decent amount of time to enjoy with your partner and really get to know them. That way, you are stable in your relationship and better able to work together to raise your kids. I gave birth to my first child a little after our first anniversary. It hadn't been a planned pregnancy, and although i am happy about the baby, I think it would have been better for our relationship if we could have waited a few more years before we had any children.

2006-08-15 11:28:52 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 0 0

It doesn't really matter what other people think. You and your wife are close. That is a good thing. Although I'm not about near old enough to get married and start a family, I've seen many marriages fail because they didn't stabilize their own relationship and get to know their partner before having kids.Most people think that the dating period is long enough to get to know someone but that's not necessarily true. When you date someone (most of the time) you don't live with them and know what they do behind closed doors. You have to know them well enough to marry them and then you must learn to live with them and their habits, hobbies, etc. You and your wife will probably be great parents who can provide a stable environment for baby.
Good Luck Daddy!!

2006-08-15 12:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by KAI 2 · 0 0

I think it's completely up to the couple. My husband and got married when our first child was a year old. And we have our problems and there are days when I'm not entirely sure I want or can do this anymore. But somehow here we still are, ten years later.

But I don't think it's a matter of time at all. I don't think it's a matter of how well you and your spouse get along, either. I think it's more a matter of how you and your spouse handle problems when they come up and how well you communicate. And kids are going to create loads of problems and a heap of stress you will not be prepared for until you actually experience it. What makes or breaks a marriage has very little do with the actual kids but little things the couple doesn't plan for.

2006-08-15 11:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0 0

We didn't wait very long but we were older when we got married. If you felt 6 years was right for you than 6 years was the right amount of time. It sounds like your child will be born into a loving stable home where he is wanted and will be met with joy. Those are the important things.Good Luck and God bless you.

2006-08-15 11:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I have a girlfriend that waited that long to have her first child and then had the second one right after that one; That choice of when is really up to you and your partner; All the others that have an opinion should stay where they are. Peace.

2006-08-15 11:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by savvyladydiamond 3 · 0 0

You can wait as long as you want to start having your family. Some people are ready right when they get married and some need time to save their money, etc... before they have a baby. Good luck.

2006-08-15 11:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No I don't think 6 yrs is too long. We waited 5 yrs and glad we did. We wanted to have our time to grow together as a couple.

2006-08-15 11:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by bonz 2 · 0 0

We waited six years also. We married quite young and had time to get to know each other well. We went on to have four children and have been happily married for 30 years.

2006-08-15 11:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by Your Mom 2 · 0 0

We waited ten years, had a good time and finally did it. Clock was ticking. The big mistake was waiting so long. Had I known what a good time kids can be we'd have had more than two.

2006-08-15 11:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0 0

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