i dont know what to do anymore it hurts so bad just to not talk to her i cant take it anymore.i dont know. its like i cant tell her b-cuz i just dont know what she would say im scared. i just think i shuold probaly let her go but i love her so much~crying~like shes always on a time limit and sometimes i think shes lying and shes telling me that she is gonna hang out with all of these people from school and some of the people going with her are 18 year old guys and some bi and lezbian girls and its just scarey. were like so far apart im here in texas shes in alabama. it just hurts its like she dont even love me at all.she even told me it hurts to talk to me b-cuz were not together~crying bad~i just wish i could tell her. i just afraid that she is gonna cheat on me.and like know i dont know what to tell her anymore. i just got off the phone with her and i didnt really say anything cause thats when she told me.Im lez to so u can see why im scared. i just think shes better of over there.
2006-08-15 11:04:34 · 15 answers · asked by Bouncer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try talking to her about how you feel and let her know what she's doing is hurting you. If she fixes it or even tries to, keep her. But if your still not happy with her, it's gonna be hard but let her go.
2006-08-15 11:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Demajae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing from looking at your other questions that you're upset about your girlfriend. I'm also guessing that you're both younger than 18, since you seem upset that she's going out with 18 year old guys. Assuming this is true:
Teen-aged love affairs are often scary things. I can't say I've ever had a long distance affair like yours seems to be, but I can't imagine that it makes life any easier.
The best piece of advice I can give you is to take a deep breath and find a way to calm yourself. You sound pretty agitated. You won't be able to think this through until you're calm.
You're getting to be of an age when nobody can tell you what you should do any more. Advice is of limited value as you become older becauase nobody can know your situation as well as you do. You'll have to decide what's best for yourself.
In choosing your course of action, consider what's best for your life. Your choices always consist of a package. Every choice comes with good and bad. If you choose to stick by her, you get to be her boyfriend, but you'll have to learn to live with the insecurity that troubles you now. Maybe someday, you and she will get closer again. But think seriously the odds of this happening. Remember that if you choose this route, you could be betting on something that isn't likely to happen, meaning that it's likely you'll be hurt more than you are now.
If you choose to break up with her, you'll have to live with the pain that always comes with a breakup. But then you'll be free of the insecurity. Once free of the insecurity, you can move on. It'll probably be hard at first, but you'll be OK. It'll stop being so painful after awhile. Maybe you'll even come to love someone else. There's always a possibility that you and this girl you're in love with now may still get back together after a time.
2006-08-15 18:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by mom2savi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prescription:
-Long distance in a relationship is never good news. How can you be together , if you are apart?.In short term it works, but in the long run you might as well pretend you are going out with Pamela Anderson and it would be the same: a virtual relationship!!! I'm very sorry to hear your story I' ve gone through similar stuff myself but the best thing for you would be to find someone who is less complicated sexually and also in a closer vicinity.Otherwise you'll waste the best years of your life for someone who doesn't seem to want to commit totally to you and wants to have the best of both worlds...
Be strong like a diamond.
Spaceman
2006-08-15 18:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sherluck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what your problem is. Are you broken up? Did she move away or is she on vacation? If she is gay, there is nothing you can do about that but accept that and support her. Staying her friend is the best thing you can do for the both of you. If she has moved to AL then it is time for you to move on. Long distance relationships rarely work out. They are too difficult, as you can see already. But, if she is telling you she is gay, that should be all you need to hear, she is telling you that you 2 are friends and that is all you can be. It is time for you to move on and find someone else to date.
2006-08-15 18:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Chaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, the LD relationship WILL NOT WORK. At your age u will meet someone new, and I promise she will be a distant mem. In 6 mos. u will not even think about her. Move on Bro. I know u will be fine you'll have a new g-friend in a few mos. you'll see. Good luck.
2006-08-15 18:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by GreyGHost29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to take some time for yourself... you are so wrapped up in this situation until you can't even focus..?.. if something is true and real ..you don't have to fight this hard to make it feel good. step back for a moment and ask your self this. . . If my mom was in this situation would I want her to carry on this way?
2006-08-15 18:14:28 · answer #6 · answered by jfreeknowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some professional help. YOu are really hurting and no one on here can really help you. There are people out there that care so don't do anything foolish ok. Love isnt suppose to hurt.
2006-08-15 18:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by dm1003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u should give her up and move on shes lezbian now and u cant change that.
2006-08-15 18:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Missa~Luvs~U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you talking about? Is "she" your old girlfriend? You need to let us in a little more before you get a straight answer.
2006-08-15 18:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by Lar-Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let whoever it is go. This will just keep coming up. You`ll feel so much happier when it`s over.
2006-08-15 18:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by ALittleLight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋