We are together now for 3 months and We were together before and he ended it to be with what I tought was a friedn, but that is a whole nother story, anyway I do not want to get hurt again and he has promised me it will not happen he is great with my kids and we have bought a car and a house together, but I am still so afraid that he will just up and leave and it is causing an issue with us. He tells me that he is commited to me and does not wnat anyone else but he does want to label us as girlfriend and boyfriend. Is this something that I should worry about??? he is even made plans for the furture with me and my kids by the way. Please guys give me insight to your mind, I am very confused
2006-08-15 10:53:34 · 4 answers · asked by redhairedindian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree. Trust often is simply a matter of making up your mind. If you've bought a house and a car with him and you trust him with your kids, my guess is that you've already made up your mind. Things happening very quickly like that (you said you're only back together for 3 months, right?) can be scarey. It almost sounds to me like he's picking up on your insecurities and trying to tell you to chill out. I really don't think he meant anything more than that with his comment. He is kind of right--labels are just that. But he could've just meant that he doesn't like what the label sounds like others. I mean, telling someone you live with your girlfriend usually gets the automatic reaction, "How come you haven't married yet?" Which is a lot of pressure. What matters is how feel about each other and how he acts. I'd also guess that he's probably just as terrified as you are that things will blow up. My advice is just to chill. Don't think about it, don't stress over it; just enjoy him. It'll happen when the time is right. :)
2006-08-15 11:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by I'm just me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that without a ring, technically you two are boyfriend and girlfriend, actually live ins. You have just cause to believe what you do because of your past but then worrying about it too much can have the same result too. You should just be happy with the current arrangement, for now. Its kinda still early to make a lifelong committment right now so let some more time lapse and then force a decision. Good luck
2006-08-15 18:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if you can trust him. If not the relationship will never work. Trust is the very foundation of a relationship and if you don't have that you don't have anything. Either you can sit down with yourself and have a heart to heart and make a resolution to forgive and forget, or you should really move on. If you guys can sit down together and really talk and you feel that he is committed then I would say go for it. But you definitely need to decide one way or the other. Because living this way will tear you two apart.
2006-08-15 18:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by nixinvestigations 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get married!
2006-08-15 18:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by applegirl1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋