Im 25 years old and im married for 2 years and i have a 19month old baby i we want to have another baby?

Question

Im 25 years old and im married for 2 years and i have a 19month old baby and we want to have another baby but i had Cesarian. And every one tells me that im stupit because my son is to young. that i should wait intill the son is 5years old or at least 4. Need help

Answer 1

What???? I had my first by emergency c-section ... and 11 months later had my second by emergency c-section too!

Why are they telling you you're stupid? What's it got to do with them? Do whatever you want - your body is already healed ... you'll be fine.

Go for it and BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!! X x

Answer 2

Don't be under any illusions it will be hard work having 2 kids under 3 but if that's what you want and your husband then go for it. Having a C section doesn't mean you can't have another one, so don't worry about that. Also, you might not get pregnant right away so think of the fun you'll have practising - lol. No one has the right to tell you to wait until your child is 5 that decision is for you and your husband to make and you 2 alone, plus your baby will not be an only child and will have some company and a brother or sister to help them through life and that is very precious. I can't imagine life without my sisters and wee brother.

Answer 3

Well, I don't know if you are "stupit", but you really should use the spell check.

Now, on to the issue of having another baby.
First, some questions to ask yourself:
1. Do BOTH of you want another baby...or just you?
2. How are you guys doing as new parents, right now? Honest, now...be critical and get some expert advice.
3. Are you financially ready for a second child?
4. What does your doctor have to say about it?

Now, as for whomever is telling you that you are "stupit" and that your son is too young - tell them to kiss off.
This is your life, not theirs.
My mom had me and my two brothers within a three year period and we came out alright.
Of course, she did not have a C-section with any of us (guess mom's were a lot tougher back then).

So, go back to question #4 and listen to your doctors' advice.
If it is safe to do so, go pro-create!
But don't overdo it.
Two kids are enough for any family.
And best wishes!

Answer 4

You're an adult and can make these decisions on your own(well, you and your hubby). There are many people who have c-sections and have more kids(either by c-section or VBAC). And as for having them close in age...well I have a daughter who is turning 6, another turning 4 a son turning 3 and a baby girl who is only 2 1/2 mos...timing is all your choice and there are pros and cons for either them being closer together or farther apart. It all comes down to what you two decide to do, because in the end they are your kids and you are the ones who will either have to deal with a toddler and a baby or a 5 y/o and a newborn...do what makes you happy!

Answer 5

I think you are right on time actually. Your son will be 2 1/2 - 3 years old when you would have it, and they are old enough by then to understand somewhat but still young enough for them to be really close friends. They will also be able to go to school together at times.

My oldest two are 22 months apart, a bit close but they are good friends and close even now, at 18 and 16 years of age. My 11 year old, on the other hand, is 5 and 7 years younger than them. She always felt left out...she knew she was loved but she could only pretend to be big like them for so long...then she'd act her age and they'd get irritated with her.

I'm now expecting my last child, and my kids are excited but this baby's gonna kind of be on her own.

I say go for it, it's easier when your kids can relate to each other.

Good luck!

Answer 6

There is 16 months between my two children, I had a c section for my first, but had my second naturally. Although I could have had another cesarean. My two are very close and play really well together. Although it was hard work having two babies, I'm glad I did it. There are 9 years between me and my sister and had nothing in common growing up, it was like being two only children. I don't think you should listen to any well meaning advice (including mine) and decide whats right for you and your situation ps My midwife told me that it was fine to have another baby straight away and its a complete load of rubbish about the 1 year thing, which I'd heard too.

Answer 7

Do not listen to everyone. If you think you are ready for another baby go ahead. It is your decision to make not everyone Else's. Me and my sister were 1 year and 11 months apart. We are so close. I have a 5 years old will be 6 in Oct. and an 11 month old. I wanted to have mine closer together, but i had 2 miscarriages. I am sure you will make the best decision based on your circumstances.

Answer 8

It's your personal choice whether you wait 5 months or 5 years to have a second child. If you two feel ready to have another child then go for it. Yes, your child is still young but when you think about it, that's not a bad thing. Your children won't be far apart in age which means they'll play together and keep each other company.

Answer 9

First of all, I think that you need to get a better handle on English. Is that how they are teaching kids in school now? If there is a 10 years age difference between you now do you really think that she is going yo wait for you for another 3 years, divorce him and marry you? I don't think so. Grow up and get a girlfriend your own age.

Answer 10

Actually if you start trying now your child will have the best start in life.
Studies show that an age gap of 24-36 months leads the second child to have an IQ up to five points higher than his older sibling.

Too early is bad but by the time bro or sis turns up you 1st born will quite independant.
I'd get potty training underway
The C- Section bit? Need to know why you had one to answer that

Answer 11

Your child will be 2 1/2 when you have another baby if you decide to have it right now. Follow your instincts, you are the one taking care of the baby not the people giving you advice. The C-section is a non-factor to get pregnant again.