How do I deal with my friend talking to others about my personal life?

Question

The fact that she does this has gotten back to me on more than one occasion. While she isn't sharing extremely personal information, she still talks! Not to mention, what gets back to me is an exageration of what was previously shared with her in the first place. Why does she feel the need to talk about me and share this information? And what do I do about it?

Answer 1

She shares your info because she is a blabber mouth and doesn't respect your privacy. You can either talk to her and tell her to stop telling people about your life and that you are beginning not to trust her or you can just stop telling her things that you don't want spread around.

Answer 2

What you need to do is to confront her about what is being said, find out her side of it, tell her what you think about her talking about you and your personal life. Whatever the level of personal information, if she is a good friend, then she should know not to talk about it. If she denies it, and you trust your information, then you have found out what type of friend she really is, and you know what you can and cannot trust to share with her. There are very few people that you can trust sharing your personal life with, and this is how you find out who those people are.

Answer 3

You should tell her straight out and forward that if you share something with her that is of your personal life it's because you trust her on not to tell anyone else, not so that you hear another exaggerated version of it from someone else. If she is really your friend she will understand and not make a big deal of the situation.

Answer 4

Some people just like to gossip. I have a friend like that too. Cant say anything to him without everybody knowing about it. I'm assuming you've already confronted her on this and asked her to stop. That would be the place to start but some people will always do it. Just dont tell her anything from now on besides regular bs stuff.

Answer 5

Ironically I have a cousin with the same tendency for having loose lips. I have spoken with her repeatedly about this and it just winds up being an argument. My solution therefore, is to tell her nothing of any relevance so that she can do little or no additional harm. Unlike your friend, she tends to babble about most anything regardless of the sensitive nature of the topic. That had to stop.

Answer 6

Well if your friend is talking about your personal life then just tell her that I dislike how are telling people my personal information and then ask her "would u like if i had personal information about you and i told people?" I think not and if she still continues it find a new friend and stop tell her your information because i woulnt trust her if she did that to me

Answer 7

Consider her not a friend because she's not, and don't tell her anything else. We use the word friend too loosely. A true friends keeps what you talk about confidential regardless if it's extremely personal or not. Plus she's a liar if she exaggerating as well. In my opinion, not a friend.

Answer 8

Do not confide in this person any longer, unless you really want something spread around. It sounds like you have been pretty lucky so far. Keep it that way. It's really one thing to do things with some friends but quite another to confide in them. The woman, quite frankly, can't be trusted. Been there, done that.

Answer 9

If she is your friend then sit her down and talk over the issue of her talking w/ other people about u. She should be able to understand that u don't want people all in your business. Your life is your life not hers, so if you're friends then she'll have no problem respecting your wishes

Answer 10

Well tell her to get a life or something cause she has no right to talk about ur personal life...or something...if shes telling people that then shes not a very good friend