Long time friend of mine. Long ago we told eachother we were attracted to eachother. Never connected physically. Drifted apart. Maintained email for years. To my knowledge and from what he has told me he's never had a girlfriend. He's 36. This is what I know about him:
Construction worker
Work aholic
Youngest male in family
Loves his parents, eats with them once a week.
Owns home, both home and garden are meticulous
Home decor is leather sofas, glass tables, METICULOUS
I've been alone with him twice in the last two months and he hasnt
made a move. My body isn't supermodel but I'm not ugly and consider myself attractive. Not one move, nothing......
any indications here?
2006-08-15 10:28:54 · 37 answers · asked by flipit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Gay.... Next Question
2006-08-15 10:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. he is either gay or just not that into you. So how do we know which is which? Honestly you cannot tell from leather sofas and such..when you found yourself alone with him, why is at his invitation? What led up to your being alone with him? Was it a date? Did you ask him if he would like a kiss? Did you flirt a little bit? How did the evening end, follow up date ?
Or you could cut through all the crap and ask "Dude, are you gay?" If the answer is no .. he's just not that into you
2006-08-15 11:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by neelyohara2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could simply not be attracted to you any longer ( I am not attracted to the same people I was attracted to 10 years ago...) and just because he didn't jump you when you guys spend time doesn't mean he's gay, in my book it means that he has manners. BTW My husband is a Designer and has GREAT taste in furniture and he's very meticulous and I love that about him. Not every guy has to be a slop to prove his manly-hood. I think you are taking this way to serious and are reading into it.... you can always ask him though..!!
2006-08-15 10:39:02 · answer #3 · answered by la dolce vita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking about "old times"... something like: "remember that time years ago when we said we were attracted to each other?"
And watch carefully for his reaction. If he's interested you'll notice, if not... he might find it funny, or dumb, and say something about it.
In the end, if still not sure, ask him directly... if he's interested in you and didn't know how to tell you, you would have broken the ice... and if he's gay, you'll know and have a new gay friend!! It's a win-win situation :-)
2006-08-15 10:47:33 · answer #4 · answered by YessicaT@PR 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are guys who are so meticulous but they really not gay... that's just the way they are... a person who loves shopping, gardening, decorating, meticulous are not always considered gay... if he hasn't do a move yet... maybe it's because he respect you 'coz u've been friends for a long tym.... on the other side, if he's a guy... be happy... coz gay are one of the happy people on earth... no dull moments with them... if you really wanna know the truth, since u two are friends... ask him... ( instead of doubting his sexuality u know & for you also to have peace of mind)....
2006-08-15 10:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by samz_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The things you write are not enough as an argument to consider him a gay. Get real. He will make a move when it comes to it.
2006-08-15 10:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's really hard to say, but the chance are good that he is either gay, or just completely clueless. Just try to be bold and ask him out sometime on a "date" and see what he says. Good luck. If he is not gay, he will be a great catch!
2006-08-15 10:33:24 · answer #7 · answered by poisonivy4913 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not giving you any indication that he's gay, you neeed to ask him. Just start talking to him about past relationships and go from there.
2006-08-15 10:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by WEIRDRELATIVES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be a momma's boy, but that doesn't mean he's gay. He just may not be interested in you like that. Just because you're alone doesn't mean he has to try and jump you !!
2006-08-15 10:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by LoneWolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he's gay, those people who are work aholics dont want to have or make time for relationships. did he have female friends is the next question. maybe he has talk to women but never seriously dated them to consider his gf.
2006-08-15 10:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by tyramarie26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not gay. Thats what you told me to say.
Maybe he is. Maybe he isn't. Why don't you talk to him and ask him. That is what adults do and if he doesn't give you a straight answer, challenge his adult hood. If he is gay, be a friend and supportive. Thats what friends do.
2006-08-15 10:33:42 · answer #11 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋